frustrated..

My fiancee and i have been staying with my dad for about 2 weeks since we moved back this way and he just sits up in our room ALL day. I need to cook for him, clean, take care of the kids 95% of the day and do everything else. He wont watch them so i can do anything and gets all pissed and gives me weird looks if i leave them up there with him for a few minutes. When we had our own place he was good, things weren't equal when it came to taking care of the kids between us but not a bad father by far. hes changed out 9 month old maybe 4 times at the most and wont change the kids when they poop unless i'm not around.


what would you do? i chat at him but it seems like it wont work. I don't really want to be with someone who wont even help take care of his child but I'm not sure if things will get better or not once we buy our house.

Kick him out. I bet he'd listen then. If he is willing to listen, see if he'll talk to a doctor or something, it sounds like he's depressed. If he won't work on it, kick him out.

Quoting The Pretender:" Kick him out. I bet he'd listen then. If he is willing to listen, see if he'll talk to a doctor or something, it sounds like he's depressed. If he won't work on it, kick him out."

I have clinical depression and he told me to start seeing my doctor again the other day actually. he wont go see one but hopefully he will with me. its so annoying to have him sleep in as late as he wants, rarely help out and never clean. it seems like the longer we have kids the less he does.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jillbill4:</b>" I have clinical depression and he told me to start seeing my doctor again the other day actually. he ... [snip!] ... have him sleep in as late as he wants, rarely help out and never clean. it seems like the longer we have kids the less he does."</blockquote>




If he is NOT willing to get help or fix the problem, DO NOT marry that guy. Seriously. It is not his fault if he has depression. It BECOMES his fault if he refuses to seek help or even unbiased evaluation. You kids deserve better than that. Don't think that they don't feel like an inconvenience to their dad when you have him watch them- if you notice it, TRUST ME, they do too. Kids are perceptive.

Quoting The Pretender:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jillbill4:</b>" I have clinical depression and he told me to ... [snip!] ... like an inconvenience to their dad when you have him watch them- if you notice it, TRUST ME, they do too. Kids are perceptive."

well he gets to come and go as he pleases, he doesn't leave me to go drinking or anything like that. but he goes and fixes up our cabin and runs to the store 15 mons away whenever he wants while i have to ASK to leave to see my niece and nephew for a half hour and he gets all weird and wont watch the kids.

i ended up packing his bags, calling him and telling him to leave and come back when he can grow up. I wouldn't mind if we could both just come and go as we please and have the other one watch the kids but i can never leave and he does whenever he wants on top of doing nothing here at my dads is too much.

Just be clear that if he gets help or REALLY changes you'll reconsider giving him the boot

Quoting The Pretender:" Just be clear that if he gets help or REALLY changes you'll reconsider giving him the boot"

hes gone now, i really don't think its depression, hes just cranky as smurf and lazy.