boundaries

So I just have a question. Am I wrong to be upset at this? Tell me straight I can take it..

So last night me and SO had our mutual friends over who are a couple. We've been friends since 2011 and worked at Walmart together. Then we all moved to Phoenix, and the girl (J) and my SO (F) now work together at Mcdonalds. J got F the job when we moved here. Now we've all hugged each other before, but that was when we didn't see each other for months at a time.

So J is telling all of us that F hugged her before he left work last night, and I got PISSED! I didn't say anything. But for some reason my blood started boiling and I just got insanely jealous. I don't see any reason for him to hug her. I'm upset because it's like kinda out of the norm. I never hug her man (J2), and I havent seen J and F hug since we moved here. They come over every other night so it's not like it's been awhile that we've seen them, but also they work together now and J was coming over after her shift anyway.

So, am I crazy and should drop it not even bringing it up or should I tell SO that's not ok with me?

i wouldnt be upset
its a hug not a makeout session or sex

I understand where you're coming from. But, I don't think you really need to be sooo upset about it. You could either not say anything at all, or just lightly bring it up and why it makes you uncomfortable.

Over a hug?  

But I mean if it makes you uncomfortable, just say something.

I think you need to relax.

Maybe that was your gut. I'm not saying your man is cheating. But we have good instincts. And go with it. Just tell him it bothered you and let it go. If he gets defensive then I would look more in to it.


But it was just a hug.

Meh, it was just a hug. I wouldn't be to worried but, if you are talk to him.

It would be very odd to me that she mentioned it. If it wasn't out of the norm, why bring it up?? The hug itself wouldn't concern me, the fact that she said it would. It might be she's trying to make you jealous on purpose.

Quoting Lady GooGoo™:" It would be very odd to me that she mentioned it. If it wasn't out of the norm, why bring it up?? The ... [snip!] ... The hug itself wouldn't concern me, the fact that she said it would. It might be she's trying to make you jealous on purpose."

That, or she was uncomfortable with it and wanted to be up front.

Quoting Colt's mommy:" That, or she was uncomfortable with it and wanted to be up front."

This could be too.

well she was explaining a story and the hug is how is started. But idk I just dont trust people I've been damaged and haven't healed yet so my insecurities are like sky rocketing with all the hormones after having a baby.

Idk why it just urked me! But I told him about it, he thinks I'm tripping and not trying hard enough to trust him.

Ugh i'm such a bitch...I'm always thinking he's cheating or gonna leave me or something.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I think you need to relax."

right, I'm smurfing driving myself crazy trying to catch him cheating or prove he's not in love with me. But Idk what to do to make myself stop and realize before I do it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rydicule91:</b>" So I just have a question. Am I wrong to be upset at this? Tell me straight I can take it.. So last ... [snip!] ... after her shift anyway. So, am I crazy and should drop it not even bringing it up or should I tell SO that's not ok with me?"</blockquote>

It's pretty normal hon, my man and I's group of friends hug all the time, there are even a few chicks who kiss my man when they see him. Granted they've been friends for years but a hug is very normal and socially acceptable