About to lose my mind with DH

I swear to god I have 3 kids not 2!!! My husband works 6 hours a day monday tuesday thursday saturday and sunday. I work 8 hrs+ wednesday through Sunday. I am expected to also be the one who dioes the laundry, does the dishes,cleans the bathrooms, dusts, cooks,bathes the kids, brushes their teeth, feed them,potty train my son, plays with them, takes them outside, mop and sweep the floors, pick up toys, vacuum,grocery sh and get myself ready on top of that every day!! And the days my mom watches them, I have to pack the diaper bag, get the kids ready, get myself ready for work, get them ready to go. I am at the point where I am getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night, just to get everything done!! He does jack smurf. He watches tv, yells at my 3 1/2 year old if he's too loud, and thats about it. I have sat down and talked to him about it calmly and he just rolls his eyes, gets up and walks away every time,. He doesn't seem to care that I can't do alll of this on my own. WTF do I do??? Shouldn't this be a two person deal here??? Right after I am done cleaning he has no problem making messes again, not hanging up tilet paper, making me take care of everything. I really don't know what to do to get him to help more. He thinks working and the fact that he drives and I don't is enough of a trade off. Its smurfed up.

Stop doing smurf for him. Wash your kids and your own clothes,take care of your kids and yourself. He will either straighten up or you will know its time tot move on.

Im a sahm but he does nothing and i mean nothing. He didnt think he should have to since i stay home (with 3 kids and i babysit my niece) so i just stopping doing his smurf. he had to make his own food do his laundry and pick up his smurf i didnt do it. he realized everything that i do, it also helped that i left him alone for a whole day and spent time with my mom on her b-day he knew then what i do and its not freaking joke.

omfg. So does my bf! We're actually fighting about this right now! I've been doing this on my own since day one but absolutely on my own, in my own house, for 2 months now. His excuse as to why he cant help me? "I work". or "im tired" smurfer. I am tired too. Tired of your bullsmurf! And im exhausted because my baby has been sick for a long time. He doesn't do smurf. He doesn't even buy his son anything. Im the one supporting my son. By myself. I'm about to throw child support at his ass.
Thanks for venting... I got to vent about the same damn thing. Maybe I should think like my mom... her bf is a piece of smurf too... she wants a wife lol

Quoting Mother of One plus One:" Stop doing smurf for him. Wash your kids and you own clothes,take care of your kids and yourself. He will eaither straighten up or you will know its time tot move on."

this!

dont get me wrong, i love him to death. He has bi polar and no insurance so he can't take his medicatio, so I think that may be a part of it. He keeps saying I cant understand. Well, I'm also bi polar, but on meds for it. I have insurance through work, but they dont offer it for souses anymore. So he uses that as his main excuse. Ugh, I don't know, But starting today , I no longer do anything for him   Let's see how that works  

I'm a stay at home mom, so all of those things are sort of in the job description. Including picking up after him (SO). But if you're working more than him he should deff be picking up some of the slack. Have you asked him to start with just picking up after himself? Or maybe drive out and pick up dinner 1-2 times a week? It sounds small, but even if he JUST picks up after himself (putting toilet paper on the roll, put his laundry in the basket, pick up dinner once or twice a week) it helps a lot. I stay at home with DD, and SO works 14+ hours a night, but once he sees me getting frustrated or realizes he's making more of a mess than our 14 month old, he straightens out lol. Have you tried physically SHOWING him the mess he creates?

Quoting *Noah&Presley'sMommy*:" I swear to god I have 3 kids not 2!!! My husband works 6 hours a day monday tuesday thursday saturday ... [snip!] ... do to get him to help more. He thinks working and the fact that he drives and I don't is enough of a trade off. Its smurfed up."

i'd kick his ass out

Quoting Jillbill4:" i'd kick his ass out "

!! lol, I think if it were that simple she would have done it already. (:

Quoting Munchkin Maker:" I'm a stay at home mom, so all of those things are sort of in the job description. Including picking ... [snip!] ... making more of a mess than our 14 month old, he straightens out lol. Have you tried physically SHOWING him the mess he creates?"

yeah i have shown him, he just does all cleaning half assed and I can't stand that. He never cleans behind DD's high chair , or he never vacuums the stairs, and when I nicely say"Honey, you missed the stairs", or if I just do it really quick, he wigs out and says"fine you just do it all" and then we're back to me doing it all. I seriosuly am making myself a cleaning apron that says "House Bitch, cleans for nothing on it. Maybe he'll catch a hint

Quoting Jillbill4:" i'd kick his ass out "

I'd rather work on the relationship and try to make things work. I'm too stubborn to just kick him out lol

Is he one of those that "demands" the house be clean? If so, tell him it won't be clean until he cleans it.
I'm particular about cleaning too, so I wouldn't be able to just make him do the cleaning, especially if he half asses it.

Quoting Munchkin Maker:" Is he one of those that "demands" the house be clean? If so, tell him it won't be clean until he cleans ... [snip!] ... it. I'm particular about cleaning too, so I wouldn't be able to just make him do the cleaning, especially if he half asses it."

No, he'd live in garbage and not blink an eye. I can't STAND it being filthy!!! I don't want my kids growing up in filth. I don't want to be embarrassed to have people over. I'm so busy cleaning every day, I have no time for play dates or friends as it is, But I would love to come home to a clean house, bathed babies put to bed and a nice dinner. But in the 10 years we've been together I have NEVER gotten that!