Non-circ mommas

How do you handle comments from family members/friends?

When I was pregnant with our son (3.5mos) we didn't discuss the fact that we weren't circumcising with family. It was our business, not theirs. KWIM? But when we took the kids to MIL's a few weeks ago, she made the discovery while changing his diaper. When we came to pick the kids up, she was like, "I changed his diaper and uh.. I'm not familiar with his uh.. and how to.. uhh.." - I just told her to clean it like a finger. Don't do anything to it. And never thought anything else of it.

Well tonight was DH's grandfather's birthday, so a whole bunch of the family met at a restaurant for dinner. Somehow our son's (lack of) circumcision got brought up (I was in the middle of a conversation with someone else). I heard SIL ask DH, "You're not getting him circumcised!?!" And him tell her no, and her tell Noah how sorry she was.   And FIL talk about how he's like snuffleupagus. But at the time, I was just like, whatever.

On the drive home it really started to bother me. Why in the world would that be brought up at a family dinner to begin with? And honestly, why the smurf are you that concerned with MY son's penis? DH says apparently his father brings it up a lot.  

How do you handle situations like that?

People are just uncomfortable with it. I ignore it and move on. I have much better things to worry about than people commenting on my sons penis.

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" People are just uncomfortable with it. I ignore it and move on. I have much better things to worry about than people commenting on my sons penis."

Which is me, normally. IDGAF. But at a family dinner, with everyone sitting around the table? I wasn't listening, so I don't even know HOW that would get brought up. I find that the most annoying of all.

 

If this baby is a boy, I get the feeling I'm going to go off on a lot of people in mine and SO's family. I have a feeling they're gonna be exactly like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" Which is me, normally. IDGAF. But at a family dinner, with everyone sitting around the table? I wasn't ... [snip!] ... around the table? I wasn't listening, so I don't even know HOW that would get brought up. I find that the most annoying of all."</blockquote>



I know it's super annoying!!!! It was the talk of my parents 4th of July party with our family. Eventually everyone stopped talking about it, but if they didn't I probably would have just said something. I'm sorry it sucks.

i would tell them how i feel about circing if someone in my family brought that up EVER. which is that is barbaric and an unnecessary cosmetic procedure done to infant boys to remove a part of their body that they were born with! i woudl get snarky if anyone ever tried to put down my decision to NOT mutilate my child's genitals.

sorry double post

I probably would have pissed a bunch of people off in that situation. People know not to bring it up to me anymore... My brother made fun of my sons penis when he was a month old, and I SNAPPED and I just can't hold my tongue over the issue anymore. I guess I made him feel bad, and he researched it, and is pretty anti-circumcision now.


ETA: I'm very sarcastic if someone brings it up now, I don't whip out facts or anything...

I don't have a son yet but if I ever do I don't plan on circumcising him. My family, my mom especially, has had plenty to say about it. Even argued with me while I was in labor with LO after the nurse asked me if she turned out to be a boy if I wanted him circumcised. I didn't even bother giving her facts, I told her that until she gives birth to and raises my children she doesn't get to make decisions concerning them. I've told other family members the same thing. MIL has given me crap about it too, I told her she had her chance to make decisions about her children and she wasn't making them for mine.

if any one asks me i tell them straight up i wasn't comfortable cutting off a piece if my son's body. when he came out he had the perfect little penis and there was no way i was going to get it cut because other people do it.

really if my FIL kept bringing it up, I'd tell him to go get a prince albert then I'd consider it.

I've never seen anyone really care about circing except on here. Maybe it's because in my family we don't circ.

I always ask them why they are so worried about my son's penis. Nuff said. (;

That would annoy me too. My mom was shocked when I told her when we have a son we won't circ. she was all but that's unsanitary blah blah. MIL didn't circ any of her boys so atleast she'll be on our side lol

Luckily for me both mine and DH's familys dont circ. Thats probably the only thing we are all on the same page with  

You just ignore it and chage the subject. Or ask him if its okay to go ahead and tie him down and take a knife to his penis with lack of anastehsia. Im sure he will say no and STFU