I feel..wrong

I'm currently facing an extremely unwanted pregnancy.. I'm 20 years old and am a single mom to a nearly 3 year old boy, I'm in the middle of college (graduating my first program and applying to my second)


I don't want this baby, and I want to terminate the pregnancy..I feel wrong about it.. I have never considered myself pro-choice, I think I was fairly neutral but I never thought of myself considering it this strongly or wanting it this badly.
I'm scared, I'm scared of the procedure, regretting it.. I don't think I will regret it, because I know it's the best thing for me, and I feel selfish for that, but in this situation I feel like I need to be & have the right to be selfish.

Everyone knows about this pregnancy. I am 8 weeks, have known for 3 weeks, already had an ultrasound. But...I still don't want it as much as I didn't from day one. I cry every night, occasionally to the point where I'm throwing up. I am miserable, I hate myself for putting myself in this position, putting another life in this position. But the situation is here and I have to face that...
What is the easiest way to cope with having an abortion.. what's the procedure like? I'm terrified, I just want this over with and put behind me, but my mom is scared I won't be able to.

The procedure is easy. Takes about 5 minutes. I felt fine that same day. The pro life nurse tried convincing me that I'd need a therapist afterwards but I didnt/don't because I knew it what was best for me, my family, and my baby.

If you're this upset about the thought of having an abortion, have you considered adoption?

I had a surgical abortion at 8 weeks 5 days in 2009. The physical recovery wasn't too bad. Just had some period like cramps and spotting. You'll be prescribed two weeks of antibiotics and asked to refrain from heavy lifting or sex also for two weeks. I have no regrets. I wasn't emotionally or financially able to handle a child at that time.
It can be a hard decision, but try and remember you're doing what is best for you and your son.
Best of luck.

Everyone "copes" differently. It destroyed my life both times, I'm still not over either of them, and that's pretty much why I am having a baby now at a really difficult time in my life. In no way am I against it though. To each his own.

I'm confident about wanting to abort. I just am shocked I've come to this conclusion, I never expected myself to be at this spot, this point, this situation.

I wish you luck in everything!

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This was exactly me four months ago. I'm not gonna lie before I got pregnant I considered myself more pro-lufe then I got put into a position where I had to abort. I never ever thought I would make that decision. Now after my experience I realized that things happen and just because you choosecabortion doesnt mean you didnt love your fetus. You carecenough to make the best decision for you and the fetus.

Quoting A M B E R:" I'm confident about wanting to abort. I just am shocked I've come to this conclusion, I never expected myself to be at this spot, this point, this situation. "

It will be ok momma. Sometimes life throws us curve balls, but you are sure of your decision and will get through this just fine.
I would be sedated during the surgery if the clinic in your area will do it. I was and my recovery was swift, my pain minimal.

Abortion isn't easy. It'll be hard on you emotionally, without a doubt. Just remember that you are doing what you believe to be best, remember where you are at in life, the child you already have... And I can't imagine you being too regretful with your decision. Good luck!

Wow! You're NOT supposed to be talking like that in here. Read the rules

this is a protected forum for women who are considering or have had abortions. You need to edit your post before someone reports it

1.) Firsttimemommy needs to be smurfing banned. Ridiculous. What an idiot. If we're throwing below the belt blows at people, perhaps you should have chosen abortion for yourself and used your time and money to further your education and learn proper grammar.

2.) OP, I have had two D&Cs. The pain was minimal and I felt back to myself within a few days afterward. Kudos to you for bettering your life and knowing what you can and can't handle.