funeral

Would you let your 11 month old child attend a funeral showing?

No, when my kids were 11 months old all they wanted to do was run around and be loud. People are grieving.

If I believed I could keep them occupied and quiet the whole time we were there, yes. If I thought they would distract or disrupt others, no.

probably not unless it was for a close immediate family memeber

If it was a very close family member I might consider it but if not then no I wouldn't

I didn't let my 12month old go to my sisters funeral in jan.
I was worried she'd be bored and disruptive and I was scared for her to see me so upset.

It was a hard decision to make and at the time I really wanted her cuddles but I think I made the right decision.

Note; heaps of other ppl had their babies their. They were crying, fussing and bored.

Quoting meggg+J&B♥:" No, when my kids were 11 months old all they wanted to do was run around and be loud. People are grieving."

Exactly this.

Its for my grandpa and everyone is mad at me for not bringing him but SO is so strongly against it that he's threatening to leave if I take him my mom is in hysterics because SO won't Let him come

No, not unless (god forbid) it was their father.

Quoting Laurahyatt:" Its for my grandpa and everyone is mad at me for not bringing him but SO is so strongly against it that he's threatening to leave if I take him my mom is in hysterics because SO won't Let him come"

thats a bit much for him to threaten to leave because of that.

I had to. Just before my daughters 1st birthday my grandma died. I had no one else to watch her.

Also I took her to a wake when she was 13 months old, a girl that i had worked with was brutally murdered. Again i had no one to watch her.

She behaved both times.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurahyatt:</b>" Its for my grandpa and everyone is mad at me for not bringing him but SO is so strongly against it that he's threatening to leave if I take him my mom is in hysterics because SO won't Let him come"</blockquote>


Will there be a wake/gathering LO can go to afterwards?
Your family probably want to see a happy, youthful face to cheer them up.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ×ø×K·ßear×ø×:</b>" thats a bit much for him to threaten to leave because of that. "</blockquote>




That has me very upset   he's being very unreasonable

Quoting Laurahyatt:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ×ø×K·ßear×ø×:</b>" thats a bit much for him to threaten to ... [snip!] ... for him to threaten to leave because of that. "</blockquote> That has me very upset   he's being very unreasonable"

When my grandpa died last summer, I decided to leave the kids at home with DH. It isn't really appropriate to bring young children to something like that IMO. It's hard for them to see you crying and they don't understand, and it's difficult to give them the attention they want when you're upset. It was much, MUCH, less stressful than it would have been if I had brought even just one kid. I'm glad I didn't.
Does your mom see your child a lot? If so, I think she probably isn't thinking very clearly, it's not something you want to be chasing your baby around at, you'll want to focus on the funeral and everything than worrying about him. If she wants to see him, tell her she can see him afterwards. That's just what I would do if I were you.

I'm very sorry for your loss, btw. I went through this last June.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mamakye_:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Laurahyatt:</b>" Its for my grandpa and everyone is mad at ... [snip!] ... there be a wake/gathering LO can go to afterwards? Your family probably want to see a happy, youthful face to cheer them up."</blockquote>



No just an immediate family showing that everyone wants him to attend. All the great grandchildren will be there but him because SO is dead set on him not going