Quoting Vivian [38.6]:" it sounds like she is overwhelmed. I fought my mom for guardianship of my autistic and mildly retarded ... [snip!] ... of her and then passed it to my dad. They found an awesome home for her where she gets 24/7 attention and is super happy."
I get this, he is alot to handle, but slowly killing him isn't going to help anyone. He's a sweet guy.
But honestly my mom is the only one that can care for him. My dad wants nothing to do with him because he's slow and used to beat the smurf out of him when we were growing up. My sister is leaving to finish college at a state college, and I have 2 kids and a tiny house. My mom is the only one that can care of him because we could NEVER put him in a home, just imagine taking an 8 yr old little boy and throwing him into a place he doesn't know. That'd be my brother.
If all she is is just overwhelmed, I can deal with that, I can take him once a week to give her a break... but I feel like thats not going to stop her from overfeeding him and disobeying the doctor.
I told her the other day that when he has a heartattack and dies I will blame her. And she got mad.