re: TTC for over a year

Quoting greenteayogamama:“ Awe thanks so much for that. It is so great to hear these stories and know that it can deff happen. Congrats on your news! When are you due? I am brand new to BG so I would love to parent tank you.”

I'm due February 3rd, but I will know more tomorrow at my 8w2d ultrasound. I'll have a C-Section about a week earlier than the due date. Lets hope this one doesn't wanna come early like my son!

This can be kind of depressing, although it will hopefully also be supportive. For over a year now, I feel like I've tried everything. Some friends keep trying to tell me to stick with a simple pregnancy calendar, but I've yet to have much success with it. *sigh*... I guess it's easy to say that when it's easy. This one has definitely not been easy. I better find some BD pretty soon.

Quoting Chef Dez is Preggo!:“ I'm due February 3rd, but I will know more tomorrow at my 8w2d ultrasound. I'll have a C-Section about a week earlier than the due date. Lets hope this one doesn't wanna come early like my son!”

Wow how exciting! Good luck to you! Don't forget to post up your pictures of your 2D. I can't wait to see.

I just posted in the introduce yourself section. I have been ttc for over a year now. I do have 2 kids, the youngest is 16. I had her at home and am very much into natural living and unsure about trying anything other then herbs/homeopathics to ttc - but being my age and ttc for a year I'm thinking about clomid (?)
I am on my second marriage and age 43 now.

(Sorry this is a long introduction. It's also posted in the TTC Introduce Yourself thread, but I wanted to post it here as well.)

My partner and I initially decided I would TTC first. We didn’t expect I’d have any trouble since my cycles have always been like clockwork. After several months of unsuccessful inseminations, my RE found a chocolate cyst, and a lap revealed I have Stage 3 or Stage 4 endometriosis (depending on which doctor you ask). I kept trying to get pregnant, moved on to injectables, but we still had no baby.

We decided to try IVF using my eggs and my partner's uterus since I have a drive for a bio-kid and Kim has a stronger drive to be pregnant. Perfect right? In our first round of IVF in August 2008 we implanted three of my embryos into Kim, but that only resulted in a chemical pregnancy. I opted to have my polyp removed so we could both have potentially viable uteruses, and we decided we would continue with IVF #2 using my embryos in both of us. We also decided to get a new donor since our donor of 2 years still hadn't given us any babies, and were approved for a vial exchange. I had a successful polypectomy at the end of September 2008 and we pushed ahead with IVF #2.

They retrieved 27 (yes, 27!!!!!!!) of my eggs in December 2008 and 17 of those successfully fertilized. This time, we put 2 into Kim and 1 into me and went ahead with assisted hatching. Kim did not get pregnant, but I did, and miscarried (D&C in January 2009). We did get 7 frozen blasts out of it though, so it wasn't all for nothing.

Instead of just waiting for IVF #3, we decided Kim might as well try IUI since it's cheaper and we know she doesn't have the same fertility issues I do. It only has a 15-20% chance of success, but we thought it would be worth a try, and if it didn't work we would just continue with IVF like we originally planned for both of us. We inseminated on February 28, she started shooting up with heparin, and SHE’S PREGNANT, due November 21. YAY!

Meanwhile, I went ahead with a FET at the end of April. We put in three embryos, but I didn’t get pregnant.

IVF #3 is on track for August. I wanted to push it back until the end of my summer to give me a break from all the drugs. When I get my next period they will have me start the cycle day 3 laps and then the pill, then lupron, then stim. My last period was June 16, so mostly likely it’ll start again around July 16. The retrievals are set for mid August. I’m having some reproductive testing on this Thursday, and hopefully IVF #3 will be the charm!

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ (Sorry this is a long introduction. It's also posted in the TTC Introduce Yourself thread, but I wanted ... [snip!] ... are set for mid August. I’m having some reproductive testing on this Thursday, and hopefully IVF #3 will be the charm!”

What a story!

I'm so happy for you two to be expecting   How exciting!
I hope your IVF #3 sticks and you get a happy healthy full-term pregnancy out of it  

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ (Sorry this is a long introduction. It's also posted in the TTC Introduce Yourself thread, but I wanted ... [snip!] ... are set for mid August. I’m having some reproductive testing on this Thursday, and hopefully IVF #3 will be the charm!”

Wow. Don't think I've ever heard a TTC story quiet like that one! Congratulations on Kim's pregnancy. Hopefully, you will be close behind her.

I wish we could afford to try IFV. We do good just to afford the fertility meds though.  

Quoting Strappycock's Bitch {TTC}:“ Wow. Don't think I've ever heard a TTC story quiet like that one! Congratulations on Kim's pregnancy. ... [snip!] ... you will be close behind her. I wish we could afford to try IFV. We do good just to afford the fertility meds though.  ”

Yeah most of our paychecks goes to IVF. But we didnt start IVF until Kim's job (pediatrician) started covering it (when she was still training she didn't have IVF coverage, but now we do). So it's not TOOO bad, but still a lot more expensive than IUI. Ironically Kim ended up getting pregnant from a plain and simple insemination, and that costs all of $5!!!!

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ Yeah most of our paychecks goes to IVF. But we didnt start IVF until Kim's job (pediatrician) started ... [snip!] ... expensive than IUI. Ironically Kim ended up getting pregnant from a plain and simple insemination, and that costs all of $5!!!!”

Wow... What kind of insurance do yall have? We had BCBS, and it didn't cover anything about it. Now we have some generic crap, and it doesn't even cover Clomid, or Femara... Nothing at all. So, one Rx of Femara is $65, for 5 pills.

Personally I think it is ridiculous that insurance wouldn't cover it. To me, if a woman has tried everything else, they should cover IVF, or anything else that may work for them. Telling a woman that she can't have kids, is like taking away a part of her. I can't see how they can justify not covering it.

Quoting Strappycock's Bitch {TTC}:“ Wow... What kind of insurance do yall have? We had BCBS, and it didn't cover anything about it. Now ... [snip!] ... Telling a woman that she can't have kids, is like taking away a part of her. I can't see how they can justify not covering it.”

The stupidest thing was that insurance required Kim and I to go to "counseling" in order to process the egg donation. Recall, IIIIII was donating MYYY eggs to KIMMM my WIFFFEEE so that we could make OURRR baby. It was the most ridiculous thing. I mean, I'm all for therapy, I'm a therapist!!! But come ON! We sucked it up and went, and the therapist we saw agreed that it was ridiculous for us to be in therapy for that. Nobody has to go through couseling for SPERM donation! It was just a horrible twisted mess, but we're over it. They also gave me shit about my medically infertile diagnosis, claiming I had to have unprotected sex with a man for 1 year before they could deem me the fertility treatments medically necessary. UGGGG.

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ The stupidest thing was that insurance required Kim and I to go to "counseling" in order to process ... [snip!] ... to have unprotected sex with a man for 1 year before they could deem me the fertility treatments medically necessary. UGGGG.”

That's friggin ridiculous. 

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ The stupidest thing was that insurance required Kim and I to go to "counseling" in order to process ... [snip!] ... to have unprotected sex with a man for 1 year before they could deem me the fertility treatments medically necessary. UGGGG.”

There's nowhere in the books that say you have to have sex with a MAN for a year and not get pregnant....just that you can't get pregnant after a year - whichever method you choose.

Quoting Chef Dez is Preggo!:“ There's nowhere in the books that say you have to have sex with a MAN for a year and not get pregnant....just that you can't get pregnant after a year - whichever method you choose.”

At first they were saying I had to have sex with a man in order for it to count. They eventually changed their story, but it was really frustrating when they were telling me that.

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ At first they were saying I had to have sex with a man in order for it to count. They eventually changed their story, but it was really frustrating when they were telling me that.”

Yeah. I think I would have cussed someone out.

Quoting 2 Mommies Expecting:“ At first they were saying I had to have sex with a man in order for it to count. They eventually changed their story, but it was really frustrating when they were telling me that.”

Ridiculous bastards. I can't believe they said that to you.