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I don't think this is pointless I honestly think this issue effects more couples than they are willing to admit, I deal with this issue because his parents are rude about saying things like " oh you look weird with a belly" or saying things like "tell your parents to buy you a brand new car" like wtf you buy us one, not that they are struggling but they choose to spend their money on things like beer an too high car payments, they act like my parents should do EVERYTHING for me an their son an don't offer to do anything for us because my parents have money an his don't, they choose to care for only two sets of their grandkids an completely ignore the others an refuse to watch them which I think is gonna happen to my kid I think its totally unfair to treat certain grandkids better than other grandkids just because their from a different child. ppl may think Im overreacting but idk what do you guys think?

You're an adult, no one should have to buy you anything. That's your responsibility. As far as them treating their grand kids differently, you don't have to let them be around them if they do that.

I think you should take care of your own damn kid and don't worry about the grandparents. Neither sets of grandparents had sex and made the baby. Neither sets of grandparents are responsible for it.

Quoting Excited for mommyhood!:" I don't think this is pointless I honestly think this issue effects more couples than they are willing ... [snip!] ... than other grandkids just because their from a different child. ppl may think Im overreacting but idk what do you guys think?"

I think you're overreacting. My parents are millionaires (my Dad has his own very successful Law Firm) and my grandparents were Multi-Millionaires before they passed away (my Grandfather on my Dad's side was the CEO of Hussman, the manufacturer of almost all the refrigerators in grocery stores). When I was unmarried, my grandparents/parents purchased me a car and sent me to college, but now that I'm married, I don't expect anything from them. They do things for me occasionally (nice gifts at Christmas, Birthdays, etc), but I don't expect it, just because they have money. My husbands parents don't have money, and I don't expect anything from them either. DH makes plenty of money to support us and we're proud to be independent of our parents.

I think you are not entitled to anything. If you need a car you buy yourself one. My parents have helped one of my siblings with buying a car and buying a house. She needs it, we don't. They help us when we truly need it. But they don't have to! You need to appreciate the time they will spend with your children and not the things they can buy.

DAFUQ is their problem? spending their money on what they want?!?!!?

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" You're an adult, no one should have to buy you anything. That's your responsibility. As far as them treating their grand kids differently, you don't have to let them be around them if they do that."

not relying on it we have all the main stuff but im talking as far as just being nice like hey I bought you guys a bag of diapers ya kno, of course we are handling our part as being parents but just as far as offering like begin excited for a grandkid? its a joy coming to the world an if they didn't buy EVERYTHING the other two babies need then I guess I might not have a big of an issue with it, I know I may seem like coming off as a bitch expecting ppl to buy things just to be kind even if we don't need it. I guess I always thought that's what you do for a grandkid you get excited an want to give gifst even something homemade!

Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" DAFUQ is their problem? spending their money on what they want?!?!!?"

hah I guess I should have clarified like I work he works an we have everything the baby needs for the first two yrs of its life so far but its just annoys me that they try to tell myy parents what to buy out of the goodness of their hearts,

I hate this with SOs parents. They raise their other three grand kids and are always bailing SOs brother out of crap. Then when it comes to us they send a couple dollar store toys at holidays for the kids and random crocheted stuff. Then when we ask for any help we end up screwed more than anything. For example we were gonna move to TN by them a long time ago and they were supposed to set up a storage unit for us so we would have somewhere to take our stuff when we got there. They didn't. We were so pissed I said I wasn't staying there so we hauled the trailer of crap back to MI. Then we moved to WA and we asked his mom to stay with us one month to get on our feet. She ended up puttin us more behind. She didn't help with anything, we paid extra to feed her and pay all her expenses. Then she only stayed 2 weeks and was crying to go home. I was so pissed. I freaked out on her one day when she uses my phone to call her daughter and I heard them talking smurf. I freaked out grabbed my phone called SO and told him to get her the eff out of my house. He took her to the airport that night. I get so fed up with them hurtin us more than helping when they help his brother with everything.

Quoting kate & tilly:" I think you are not entitled to anything. If you need a car you buy yourself one. My parents have helped ... [snip!] ... it. But they don't have to! You need to appreciate the time they will spend with your children and not the things they can buy."

I have a car but my point is that they say things like that just to be rude like act is if because I already have smurf prepared for my kid an my parents like to give gifts that we are stuck up, why should I feel bad for having money ya kno ?

Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" DAFUQ is their problem? spending their money on what they want?!?!!?"

Right? What the hell are they thinking?? Gah, selfish people.  

Quoting Excited for mommyhood!:" hah I guess I should have clarified like I work he works an we have everything the baby needs for ... [snip!] ... of its life so far but its just annoys me that they try to tell myy parents what to buy out of the goodness of their hearts,"

I guess, I just don't get why I would expect anything from them if we have everything we need. Now them telling your parents that they need to buy stuff, that's something that would annoy me too. But I certainly wouldn't be bothered if they didn't give me anything. And if they chose to not spend time with my kid? their loss, not mine.

Quoting lolajessup:" I hate this with SOs parents. They raise their other three grand kids and are always bailing SOs brother ... [snip!] ... to the airport that night. I get so fed up with them hurtin us more than helping when they help his brother with everything."

thank you for sharing your story! im gald someone else can relate , if your gonna go thru the trouble to bail out one kkid in time of need it should be equal for all kids across the board not just pick an choose!

Quoting Excited for mommyhood!:" not relying on it we have all the main stuff but im talking as far as just being nice like hey I bought ... [snip!] ... it. I guess I always thought that's what you do for a grandkid you get excited an want to give gifst even something homemade!"

Your parents not buying you gifts doesn't mean they aren't excited. I'm sure they're excited.

Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" I guess, I just don't get why I would expect anything from them if we have everything we need. Now them ... [snip!] ... wouldn't be bothered if they didn't give me anything. And if they chose to not spend time with my kid? their loss, not mine."

that's very true I guess I'm just worried about them trying to say its meewho thinks we are too good for our kid to be around them an flip it but ill try to take your advice an not worry about that its THEIR loss like you said(: