Family Issues... (Vent)

So here goes... My 13 year old sister asked me if I needed anything for my daughter. I told her not really and that whatever she bought her would just really be extra stuff. So she brought over stuff she bought for her last weekend. Some wunsies (however you spell it Lol), summer clothes, blanket, pacifiers, plastic utensils and so on. Some of the clothes she bought her though were 0-3 months, 6-9 months and 12-18 months. I added it up and by the time summer came she wouldn't fit in the 6-9 month clothes or the 12-18 months. So I figured it wouldn't be a big deal if I sold them to someone who could use them or took them back to the store she bought them from and exchanged them but boy was I wrong! She took it way out of porportion and had a fit! Not to mention by dad got involved in the whole situation too. Let me also add that all of my dad's side of the family has never really been there in my life.

It was nice that she even did that. She's 13 years old. I have a 13 year old sister who buys my children things but most aren't like that. I wouldn't have told her and would have just exchanged them later. And also you never know what your children will be in they can surprise you in their sizes.

I'd be upset if I were her too especially if you were selling the stuff (but no over exchanging) It's not like 13 year olds have copious amounts of money so it's probably a really big deal to her that she got you something.

Well... it's ASTOUNDINGLY rude to sell a gift. I would have been pissed/hurt and I'm 22. It's sweet she's excited for her niece and bought her stuff. You should have explained to her they wouldn't fit and let HER take them back for bigger sizes. And you don't even know they wouldn't fit anyway. My daughter was still in 9mo sizes when she was over a year.

What does your dads side of the family have to do with your sister?

She's 13... Excited about the baby. Picked out thing she wanted to see get used. The mentality is different there. Now stuff from 90yo Aunt Ruth... Doesn't matter. Did you have the right to? Absolutely. Does she have the right to be upset? Absolutely. Perhaps you could have invited her along to exchange them... Don't just dismiss her feelings. She's 13, and just wanted to share in the excitement.

I wasn't even thinking about selling the stuff I was just gonna exchange it for something that would fit her, point was that none of my dad's side of the family has ever made an attempt to be in my life. Not my dad, my brother or sisters. No one

Id be pretty pissed if I was your sister too. Exchanging them is one thing but selling them? You don't know how big you baby will be or how small. And you can always layer some summery type clothes to make them more appropriate for cooler temps. I think you should apologize to your sister and tell her you appreciate her effort and the thought she put in with everything.

She didn't even buy the stuff, her boyfriend did

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Alexius's Mommy**:</b>" I wasn't even thinking about selling the stuff I was just gonna exchange it for something that would ... [snip!] ... that none of my dad's side of the family has ever made an attempt to be in my life. Not my dad, my brother or sisters. No one"</blockquote>



You stated you would sell it.

And.... she's trying to be involved, so way to be an ungrateful bitch.

Quoting **Alexius's Mommy**:" I wasn't even thinking about selling the stuff I was just gonna exchange it for something that would ... [snip!] ... that none of my dad's side of the family has ever made an attempt to be in my life. Not my dad, my brother or sisters. No one"

"So I figured it wouldn't be a big deal if I sold them to someone who could use them"

Your words.

You don't know what is going to fit when. Just because you add things up, doesn't mean that the items can't/won't be used.

She showed excitement and involvement.

I'd be pissed if somebody did that to me - especially my sister.

She never wanted to be involved until right at the end of my pregnancy. Me an ungrateful bitch? Please... At least my other side of the family has been there the whole time since they found out I was pregnant. Sell to another family member that could use them not like it would be to a complete stranger

I don't get what your dad's side of the family not being involved has anything to do with the fact that your 13 year old sister wanted to do something nice for your baby and you basically ruined that. Not many 13 year olds are that thoughtful nowadays.

Quoting **Alexius's Mommy**:" She didn't even buy the stuff, her boyfriend did "

It was still a generous offer. THEY gifted you items for your baby.

If it were my great aunt Sally twice removed and she sold stuff I bought her then told me, I would be peeved.

Accept the gift with gratitude. Keep what you can. Sell what you don't use when you know it can't be used...then don't mention it. It shoots a hole through the kindness that they were extending...

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Alexius's Mommy**:</b>" I wasn't even thinking about selling the stuff I was just gonna exchange it for something that would ... [snip!] ... that none of my dad's side of the family has ever made an attempt to be in my life. Not my dad, my brother or sisters. No one"</blockquote>




Sounds like she made the attempt. That's so sad