A mother's love VS a father's love.

This post has been inspired by a fb post that has been going around, I was reading through the comments and one of them caught my attention, along with the reply someone else gave to that comment. For the sake of the argument, I am a neutral party presenting both sides of the debate.

The question I want you to answer:
Do you think a father's love will ever be the same as a mother's love?

To go along with with question: Ignore the bad moms and dads who don't give a smurf. We're talking about people that love their children.

Do you think a mothers love for her child will never be the same as a father's because of that bonding a woman has during pregnancy and experiencing birth? Do you think a father's love might not be the same at the beginning but it does become the same as a mother's as the child grows and the man's bond becomes stronger? Or do you think a father's love can be the same as a mother's love from the very beginning?

The post I'm referring to was talking about the love of a mother and how we view parenthood from our point of view.

A man got very offended and said this was not giving men credit and making it seem like they didn't understand parenthood, and it was wrong because fathers could love their children just as any mom would. Someone replied that the point of the post was to talk about motherhood, not parenthood...and it never degraded or mocked or take credit from fathers.

So..discuss.

Both parents can love their children dearly but the love is different for each parent. It's not a bad thing but it's fact that men and women are different in ways that no culture is going to change.

Quoting SAFFY™:" Both parents can love their children dearly but the love is different for each parent. It's not a bad thing but it's fact that men and women are different in ways that no culture is going to change."

  

my husband and I have had this discussion before and as a man who desperately loves his children, we can both agree that we love our children differently. We both love them equally intensely but in different ways.

I can only speak from my own experience. My husband loves our kids just as much as me but we worry about different things. I noticed my bond with our newborns was stronger but once they began playing and interacting more, he caught up quickly.

I think more about keeping then fed, changed, rested, clean, and cuddled. He thinks more about making them laugh and getting their energy out.

No one can really say, because no one can ever be both a mother and a father. But my guess is that it is a different love. I know that no one will ever love my daughter like I do. Someone might love her as much, but it will be different.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A, E & W's mommy:</b>" my husband and I have had this discussion before and as a man who desperately loves his children, we ... [snip!] ... children, we can both agree that we love our children differently. We both love them equally intensely but in different ways."</blockquote>




This. The amount of love is the same. It's just as heavy and we would both easily die for our kids. But it's a different love.

All the people I have loved in my life, I love in slightly different ways. So because of the intensely personal nature of love, I don't think any two people can love someone in *exactly* the same way.

But I don't think that a mother's love is automatically deeper, more powerful, more intense, or any other superlative than a father's just because she carries the child. My daughter is emotionally more dependent on me than dh because I spend more time with her. When I was the working parent and dh stayed home with her, that was reversed. My mom was a SAHM and I love her deeply, but my dad's love for me offered me more in terms of my personal development.

The fact that a mother and a father love their child(ren) in different ways doesn't mean that the love of one is more meaningful than the other.

It's the same but different. A mothers love is like because their world has changed. A fathers love is like having a life long buddy. Idk you can't really explain it. I know that when me and SO look at DS and he makes us smile its not for the exact same reason. For me it can be omg he's so adorable that is my baby. For SO it's omg my kid is such a ham hah.
I think the different types of loves a mother and father has are important for a kid growing up.

Quoting SAFFY™:" Both parents can love their children dearly but the love is different for each parent. It's not a bad thing but it's fact that men and women are different in ways that no culture is going to change."

All of this.

I love my daughter so unconditionally that i feel it is impossible for anyone, even her father, to love her as much.
I know he probably loves her just as much but i can't really imagine someone else feeling what i feel for my daughter.

To me...they shouldn't even been compared at all. It definitely shouldn't be a competition of "who loves best, or who loves more"
Like, it's almost in the same category as trying to compare your love for your children to the love you have for your husband...it's just not the same. You both love your kids, and you love them dearly...but it's just not the same...it's like a fingerprint, not two alike.

My SO is not DD's biological father. He has no children of his own, other than the LO in my belly, due in June. From 5 months on, SO has taken on "father figure" to my DD. He's kind, patient, loving, and shows an enthusiasm I've never seen in a man with his own child, not even my father.
He's surprised at all of her new actions and behaviors, he teaches her new things, they have "daddy-daughter days" where they'll go and do lunch and shop. She's only 14 months old. He's the only father she's ever known, they have a bond that is similar but different from mine and DD's.
When he enters the room, her face lights up, and she runs to him. Even if she just saw him 5 minutes before. They could lay on the couch together glued to the tv for an hour, when I try to do the same DD is wiggly and wants to go play.
It all depends on the role the parent plays.

Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" This post has been inspired by a fb post that has been going around, I was reading through the comments ... [snip!] ... post was to talk about motherhood, not parenthood...and it never degraded or mocked or take credit from fathers. So..discuss."

They are different.. however saying that doesn't mean that a father can't love a child as much as a mother can or vice versa.. just differently.

I agree, I don't believe there is any real competition with a Mother or a Father. I raised my sons as a single parent for 3 years before I was remarried and their biological Father didn't care to be more involved at all, he's "in the picture" but he's never been interested in them as babies, only as they've gotten older and can help themselves (go potty, feed themselves, blow their noses, put on their clothes, etc etc) but that doesn't mean he doesn't love them, just doesn't have a bond that I have with them... then again, he's also the one who left us... whereas my Uncle has custody of his 2 children and the Mother just dipped out, got remarried, had another kid and lives far far away and only sees them a month during the Summer and never calls all year... I believe it's the individual. I love my children more than anyone but that's not to say a Father doesn't love his child more than the childs Mother somewhere else.