<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" Are you implying she shouldn't be proud? "</blockquote>




Many people probably think I had everything handed to me & although I come from well off parents they made me work my ass off to get where I am today. I'm very thankful for that. I was a freshmen in college when my dad cut me off. I was partying a lot and he thought it was time I earn money on my own. his words were that I would appreciate it more if I earned things myself. He was right.

Quoting Destinite:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" Are you implying she shouldn't be proud? ... [snip!] ... it was time I earn money on my own. his words were that I would appreciate it more if I earned things myself. He was right."

I did have everything handed to me but I'm not ashamed to be proud that I also made good choices.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" I did have everything handed to me but I'm not ashamed to be proud that I also made good choices."</blockquote>




Nothing wrong with it either way. I'm hard headed and needed the kick so to speak. I was on a full academic scholarship, so I was working hard in high school as well. When I graduated I was handsomely rewarded.

Quoting Destinite:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" I did have everything handed to me but ... [snip!] ... I was on a full academic scholarship, so I was working hard in high school as well. When I graduated I was handsomely rewarded."

Hah I'm hard headed too. It benefits me now but in childhood, not so much.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" Hah I'm hard headed too. It benefits me now but in childhood, not so much."</blockquote>




I've gotten much better with age. My son is the next generation of hardheadedness.

As far as a sahm mom being a privilege, yes I absolutely think it is. Some sahm resent going it or get bores. It is a full time job yes and it is equal to a "real" job at 80 hours a week. But it is a blessing bc not everyone has that opportunity. I would trade any career or job in the world just to be a sahm. Of course I would need breaks and adult interactions but any mother or father who can stay home and raise their own children should feel very privileged imo.

I am guessing that she pictures sahms as being spoiled middle aged rich ladies like the real housewives or something.

I think being a sahm is a a priveleged lifestyle compared to being a low income single mom, or a mom who has to toil away at jobs she hates. I thougght being a sahm looked incredibly hard and incredibly boring when I was a full-on career Mom, then grew to love it. And not all sahms are rolling in dough, I know some that are but others that are poor as churchmice.

I am a stay at home mom of 13+ years. We both agreed that I should stay home with our kids. I have beenna baby sitter and a office worker and that's it. I feel blessed to be able to stay home with our children, but wish I could get some kind of job as we are quite poor. My income would not cover gas and daycare. So I stay home and make our money stretch.

I stay at home because my husband is a firefighter and trying to find an employer to work around his crazy schedule is near impossible (the days he works changes every week) I do consider myself lucky enough that we can afford for me to stay home though. There are times I miss the adult interaction though. The way I look at it , is soon enough she will be in school and I have the rest of my life to work. I'm trying to enjoy (almost) every second of this time

Yeah I think women that get to stay home with the kids are privileged. I am extremely lucky that I got to stay home with DD for the first year. Because not everyone can afford the luxury.

At the same time, I am also glad I am about to start my career, if all I did with my life was be a SAHM I would feel a little useless. NOT saying SAHMs are useless, it is a hard job, I know, but I just want more from life. Because when the kids are all grown up and moved out of home, then what?

I hope noone takes this the wrong way, I just dont know how to word it.

Personally, if I had to be a SAHM I would feel underprivileged. I love working.

So it depends I guess on the person making the assumption.