Skylar

I didn't quite have an abortion. Well yes I did but my baby girl had passed 2 weeks prior in the womb at 17 weeks. I was given the option to deliver or to get a D&C and I feel like I took the easy way out. I regret my decision each and every day bc I feel I should've given her a name (although my SO and I refer to her as Skylar when we speak of her) and a proper burial. I feel like such an awful person and I often wonder what she looked like and I blame myself for not finding out. I was selfish and although it was over a year ago i still regret it. Idk what the point of this post was. Maybe just to get it off my chest to people that could relate. Maybe I just needed to vent. Idk

Oh wow, I'm so sorry  


You're not an awful person, I can understand why you made the decision you made. Delivering your baby that passed away would have been really hard also.
Although, maybe you would have had some closure. I'm really sorry you're hurting so badly right now, and I hope you can find some peace soon<3

Her little soul made it to heaven long before she left your body, and it doesn't matter how she got out. All that matters is that she lives on in your memory. Don't feel guilty, mama. You have no reason to.

Don't feel like an awful person, it was easier on you. You already had to go through so much with losing her.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Maybe do a balloon release or something in her honor to help you say good bye?

It wasn't an abortion if she had already passed. Don't feel bad about it, it wasn't the easy way out. NOTHING about that situation is easy.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Even though you had a D&C you technically didn't abort, since she passed away beforehand. What part of losing your daughter would be the easy way out? Absolutely none of it.. you made the best decision for yourself at the time. I can't imagine what you are going through   XOXO

Thank you ladies. I actually feel kind of better now that I got it off my chest. I kept it bottled up for so long.

sometimes just to write something down or to say it outloud helps you cope with the pain you feel. I am so sorry to hear about your skylar. YOu did what you did because at the time it felt right and you can not beat yourself up over that now. You could always find another way to cherish her memory....maybe have something named after her?