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Temper tantrums? Am I handling them right?

posted 15th Mar
DS is 11 months, and I think he's starting to throw tantrums (can they even start this young?!). If he gets a hold of something he's not allowed to play with (remote control, cell phone, etc.) and we take it away, he completely loses his smurf- throws himself backwards, screams, flails his arms and legs.
We've talked about discipline and decided that when he is older and throws a tantrum that we will ignore him until he calms down, and then get down on his level and talk to him about it, and help him to use his words to express himself. Well we can't exactly do that now; he's still a baby. We've just been distracting him with one of his toys, and if he gets really upset, we'll pick him up and cuddle him until he calms down.
Are we handling this correctly? Would you do anything differently?
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I have 1 child & live in Delaware
posted 15th Mar
My 11 month old daughter does this and I just tell her no and then ignore. Sounds bad but it works for her.
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I have 3 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Louisville, Kentucky
posted 15th Mar
My almost 6 month old is doing this! Last night he wanted to see something my husband had so he let him hold it, when he took it away he got red, started screaming, cried and was so angry his lil fists were shaking! I just give him a toy to calm him down, hes too young to understand any form of punishment.
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I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in South Carolina
posted 15th Mar
Quoting MommyToWesley:" DS is 11 months, and I think he's starting to throw tantrums (can they even start this young?!). If he ... [snip!] ... upset, we'll pick him up and cuddle him until he calms down. Are we handling this correctly? Would you do anything differently?"


This is what we do also. Our son is 11 months and kicks and bangs his head when mad. I thought it was just my kid lol
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I have 4 kids & live in Virginia Beach, Virginia
posted 15th Mar
my daughter has been throwing tantrums since she was about five months old. lol. i know that doesn't sound possible, but it is. she would stiffen, arch her back, and THROW herself backwards while crying/screaming. this would usually happen if we put her in her pack-n-play for a minute, or took something away from her she shouldn't have.

we just ignore it. she stops pretty fast. or we'll give her something she CAN have, like one of her toys. she usually gets over it pretty fast, though. lol.
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I have 1 child & live in South Carolina
posted 15th Mar
I would ignore it at that age and just walk into a different room...

...also saying "Thank you!" and giving him a chance to give you the item, then lots of praise will also cut down on them since he thinks he is being a helper.

When he gets older, you can put him in a pack and play as a "time out" so he can calm down and not hurt himself.
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I have 1 child & live in South Carolina
posted 15th Mar
I've always ignored tantrums. If they seem to be violent about them, I put them in a safe place while they have one.
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I have 4 kids & live in Wisconsin
posted 15th Mar
Redirecting him.. At that age if they get a reaction out of you they will continue to do something.. Hey really don't understand consequences. I always started tickling my son or moved him completely to another activity, got a snack, etc.. I didn't begin disciplining until 2.5.. When he actually understood cause and effect and could communicate
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I have 2 kids & live in Florida
posted 15th Mar
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I would ignore it at that age and just walk into a different room... ...also saying "Thank you!" and ... [snip!] ... a helper. When he gets older, you can put him in a pack and play as a "time out" so he can calm down and not hurt himself. "

Even at less than a year? It just still seems so young to me!
We don't let him CIO yet, either.
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I have 1 child & live in Delaware
posted 15th Mar
Quoting GL♣PK:" Redirecting him.. At that age if they get a reaction out of you they will continue to do something.. ... [snip!] ... got a snack, etc.. I didn't begin disciplining until 2.5.. When he actually understood cause and effect and could communicate"

That's what I've always thought. Would he even understand the cause and effect of ignoring the tantrum right now? Or would he just think that we're abandoning him when he's upset?
Right now we're just redirecting, and it seems to be working decently. I just didn't know if there was something else we could do, or if this is the best route at his age.
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I have 1 child & live in Delaware
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