single mothers

well obviously if you are a single mom that means that it just didn't work out between you and the father of your child/children.

If you are a single mom or have ever been a single mom, why...what actually happened to make you call it quits? I love the father of my two girls very much but we really clash.. Even though I am unhappy with our relationship a lot, I still always try to work it out, only because I want my girls to have a "family".. Something that I never had.

I just don't understand why we cant just get along, its been 5 years now. Its like he doesn't show me the same love anymore, but I deal with it.

You say YOU try and work through it....

So I'm guessing you constantly have issues and then you just take the blame and constantly try to figure out how to avoid it happening again but it doesn't work because you're not the one causing the problem, and he doesn't care enough to admit he's wrong?

Time to pack the smurf up and leave.

Relationships are about love and appreciation.

That's it.

I was a single mom for 3 years...

I think I just got fed up with the way he would treat me... He broke me down mentally and would hurt me physically... After one incident I promised myself it would be the last time I was treated like that and I even told douchebag that same thing.

He took it to heart for 6-months but then one day he grabbed me by the neck in front of our son and that was it for me.

And I have never been so happy about my decision... I only wish I would have done it sooner  

We grew up and grew apart. I wasn't attracted and hated him as a person. He was a bad father, husband and person. (For reason I won't go into) but I realized I needed to be happy. I wanted to show my kids that you don't just settle you need to be happy! So I moved on. Plus I wanted them to see and appreciate a great relationship. I decided I rather be poor and happy then rich and miserable. So I divorced him and moved on.

Quoting Red Bottom:" You say YOU try and work through it.... So I'm guessing you constantly have issues and then you just ... [snip!] ... enough to admit he's wrong? Time to pack the smurf up and leave. Relationships are about love and appreciation. That's it. "

"Relationships are about love and appreciation."

-YES.

I divorced my sons father after less than a year of marriage. He was a cheater before we got married and then he moved off in the military and was a cheater after. I tried very hard to keep things together but, the last straw for me was when I took my son to visit and found a bunch of scraps of paper with girls names and numbers on it (like a man would get at a bar...). And, he threw food at me while I held our six month old son.

Now, we've been divorced for almost five months and are just starting to learn to get along.

I have been in a relationship with a man for about eight months and things are very serious. It is SO different than it was with my sons father. This man treats me with respect and I actually trust him, unconditionally. It is an amazing feeling.

What made me become a single mom?

I told BD I was pregnant and he said during my pregnancy that he didn't care if the "brat" lived or died. He has only seen DD once in her nearly 4 years of life and that one time was the day after she was born. He only came by to look at her and say, "She looks nothing like me, you're a whore, she's not mine."

So I didn't have much of a choice in being a single mom. I'm so glad he didn't stick around. He was absolutely no good for DD or for me.

My first bd was an immature child who refused to help care for our child in any capacity, and still hasn't in 5 years. My second cheated on me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lumen.Ash:</b>" I was a single mom for 3 years... I think I just got fed up with the way he would treat me... He broke ... [snip!] ... son and that was it for me. And I have never been so happy about my decision... I only wish I would have done it sooner   "</blockquote>




That's what did it for me! He stormed into my room ( sleeping apart) and threw my phone and shattered it. Then grabbed me but he hair walked me out of the room and pushed me down a flight of stairs! Kids saw it. I was done. We didn't get along before and just kept getting worse.

Quoting Minion:" What made me become a single mom? I told BD I was pregnant and he said during my pregnancy that he ... [snip!] ... have much of a choice in being a single mom. I'm so glad he didn't stick around. He was absolutely no good for DD or for me."

What a smurfing douche bag.

I'm glad you're out of that relationship! He sounds like he would have just made your life miserable if he would have stuck around.

Quoting Minion:" What made me become a single mom? I told BD I was pregnant and he said during my pregnancy that he ... [snip!] ... have much of a choice in being a single mom. I'm so glad he didn't stick around. He was absolutely no good for DD or for me."

reading this made me tear up :-(

Quoting 6 til Gwen:" My first bd was an immature child who refused to help care for our child in any capacity, and still hasn't in 5 years. My second cheated on me."

This is NOT cool... Im glad that you found someone else

Quoting Honda450:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lumen.Ash:</b>" I was a single mom for 3 years... I think I ... [snip!] ... room and pushed me down a flight of stairs! Kids saw it. I was done. We didn't get along before and just kept getting worse."

What a douche... We are 10x better off with amazing children that will be better off with out the douchbags in their lives.

Quoting Sheldon Cooper.©:" What a smurfing douche bag. I'm glad you're out of that relationship! He sounds like he would have just made your life miserable if he would have stuck around. "

I'm so glad too! I was devastated at the time and tried so hard to get him to come back to me while I was pregnant, but after he said the whole "live or die" thing about 2 weeks before I had DD, I was done. I stopped contacting him immediately. I didn't even tell him I had had her. A friend of his who knew a friend of mine told him. He didn't even call or anything. He just showed up at the hospital.

Quoting Honda450:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lumen.Ash:</b>" I was a single mom for 3 years... I think I ... [snip!] ... room and pushed me down a flight of stairs! Kids saw it. I was done. We didn't get along before and just kept getting worse."

WTF!!! I just don't understand what makes some guys that fricking angry. They all blame it on the woman but I just think that they start taking the woman for granted and being very mean towards her

My BD is a deadbeat. He's only seen DD for about a week when she was 3 and that's it. No child support or anything. He has a son about 10 months older than DD he doesn't see or support either. Both the other BM & I are very close and we've both moved on and have wonderful men in our lives.