re: single mothers

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy of 2 Princess:</b>" This is NOT cool... Im glad that you found someone else"</blockquote>




.... who cheated on me.

With my first son his father grabbed me by the throat and tried to punch me in the stomach at 10 weeks to get me to lose the baby because I said I was leaving him I punched him on the face to get free and avoid the punch to my stomach and managed to break his nose he let me go I ran out and let called the cops to get my stuff.

The second was my x -husband we tried to see if it would work again he wanted a baby of our own and then started to miss treat my first son I just found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks I told him he had to change and start treating my son better or he had to leave I wasn't expecting him to change overnight but I said we could do parenting classes together and go to counseling that way he didn't feel like he was the only one doing anything or singled out he choose to leave and haven’t heard from him sense after telling me he would never make me raise another child on my own yea that worked out great oh well I have two beautiful babies and all I have to say is Smurf Men!!! lol

I was single at 10 weeks with my first till 2 months before my first sons 3 rd birthday and was with my x-husband for 2 months then have been single ever sense I honestly would rather be single then in another relationship ever...

Quoting Mommy of 2 Princess:" reading this made me tear up :-("

Aw, no don't tear up! It was a good thing in the long run. DD now has an excellent daddy who loves her and gives her the world. She's very lucky.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You say YOU try and work through it.... So I'm guessing you constantly have issues and then you just ... [snip!] ... enough to admit he's wrong? Time to pack the smurf up and leave. Relationships are about love and appreciation. That's it. "</blockquote>




This!

I was treated with disrespect constantly and emotional abuse. I didn't want my daughter growing up thinking if it was good enough for mommy, it was good enough for her.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" I was treated with disrespect constantly and emotional abuse. I didn't want my daughter growing up thinking if it was good enough for mommy, it was good enough for her."</blockquote>




Pretty much the reason I left and am getting a divorce. We were totally mismatched and I was too young to see it before we got married. Then the emotional abuse started and got worse with each pregnancy and I couldn't take it anymore

Actually, I'm a single mom because my fiance died, and not because something didn't work out.

Quoting Momma Rawks:" Actually, I'm a single mom because my fiance died, and not because something didn't work out."

That's so sad.  

After nearly ten years together my ex husband just up and quit our marriage.

There was no opportunity to save it. He made up his mind and that was that.

I'm a better person for it. Im a better mother for it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" You say YOU try and work through it.... So I'm guessing you constantly have issues and then you just ... [snip!] ... enough to admit he's wrong? Time to pack the smurf up and leave. Relationships are about love and appreciation. That's it. "</blockquote>

It's like you knew my relationship with my ex.

This is exactly what happened during our 6 year marriage. I finally got the courage to kick his ass out and haven't been happier.

I became a single mom after someone put a page defining abuse in my face.
it described my relationship to a tee and it's like the blinders came off. I called off the relationship the next day and never went back. Ended up finding someone perfect for me a year and a half later and we've since had another baby and are engaged. I now have the family I wished for and am happier than I would have ever been had I kept going back to my ex because I wanted to be a family.

i was with my ex for the most part of 6 years. we finally broke up in june last year after almost 8 months of him verbally abusing me and treating me like trash while i was despressed from having a miscarriage. i have dated since then but i am single still. never got in a serious relationship, did make a mistake and now im pregnant and single..i did learn not to trust men so easily  

Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:" i was with my ex for the most part of 6 years. we finally broke up in june last year after almost 8 months ... [snip!] ... got in a serious relationship, did make a mistake and now im pregnant and single..i did learn not to trust men so easily  "

its okay, it makes you stronger :-)

You're not giving your girls a "family", you're setting them up for a lifetime of disappointing, unfulfilling, unloving relationships. You're setting them up to be single mothers. Sometimes it's better for 2 people to co-parent separately. If the relationship is not working, it's doing more damage to the children to stay together than to be apart. Just think on that.
My ex-husband and I split up because we weren't happy. We were just trudging along, more as roomies than lovers, and the first time our oldest boy said "Daddy, stop yelling at Mommy!"... I was done. I knew that wasn't the way I wanted to raise my boys. Things sure aren't perfect between us now, but I am in a loving, healthy marriage and I am thankful that they will get to see what that is supposed to be. They know that their mom and dad both love them very much but just weren't happy together and that it had nothing to do with them. They are 8 and 6 now, we divorced when they were 3 and 21 months.

Quoting Mrs.Mud:" You're not giving your girls a "family", you're setting them up for a lifetime of disappointing, unfulfilling, ... [snip!] ... happy together and that it had nothing to do with them. They are 8 and 6 now, we divorced when they were 3 and 21 months."

I'm not setting my girls up to be "single mothers" that's rude to say... I don't argue or fight with him in there presence nor does he abuse me verbally or in any other way, I'm just unhappy because in some ways we are on two different paths, I'm not as happy as I feel I should be, and I feel like he takes me for granted because we've been together so long. I now that if this continues I WILL leave. so, I guess we'll see... but I understand where your coming from. and I will Always try to make smart decisions for my girls