new mom

i see all these moms and i feel so crappy it seems like y'all know what your doing i worry all the time about rose its so hard to get used to having a baby its hard to sleep i never go out or get a min to myself sometimes she cries even after i feed changed burped and cuddled her then only my hubby holding her can get her to stop crying am i not enough i will try everything i breastfeed and shes been eating every 30min to an hour sense yesterday does this ever get easier or do i just suck at it shes so beautiful and sweet and cuddly i love her like crazy i want to be a great mommy

Are you kidding? This smurf is hard as smurf no one has it down. It's just finding what works for you, and yes it gets easier!! They become more independent as they grow. Hang in there! You pm me if you want to talk or need help  

Sounds like you're doing great mama! None of us knew what we were doing with our first kid, it's all trial and error and even then sometimes we don't know why they are crying. It does get easier I promise. The first few month with a new baby takes a lot of adjustments but its worth it and everything will fall into place   you can pm if you ever need any help with questions  

That's a long sentence.


No one has it down. You learn as you go. Breastfeeding is a ton of work. I gave up nursing and exclusively pump, it's a lot easier and less frustrating for both of us.

Your husband is calming her down because she can sense how you feel, and if you're having a hard time and stressing out, she feels that.

No one knows everything about parenting. You can read all the books, watch all the DVD's and get all the advice you can...the true learning process begins when you actually have that baby.

Quoting Rydicule91:" Are you kidding? This smurf is hard as smurf no one has it down. It's just finding what works for you, ... [snip!] ... yes it gets easier!! They become more independent as they grow. Hang in there! You pm me if you want to talk or need help  "

This.

Parenting sucks sometimes, especially in the beginning. As she gets bigger, she will adapt to her own schedule and you will get it down better. Sometimes they like dad better, etc.

You could always ask dad if you could go for a break...to the movies or something. Hang in there!

<blockquote><b>Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:</b>" No one knows everything about parenting. You can read all the books, watch all the DVD's and get all the advice you can...the true learning process begins when you actually have that baby."</blockquote>




This!
I just had my first so I know for sure that I DON'T know everything, I read a lot of books but still can't figure it all out. It sounds like you're doing good job though, the crying might be because she knows your stressed out and that upsets her too. Just breathe mama, it'll all be okay.

Plus you have all these great mamas on here that are ready to answer questions too!   they really give great advice!

I went through this! I was sure my daughter hated me because she would cry so hard with me until I was in tears... it was only as I started sobbing at how worthless and helpless I was that she would fall asleep lol. Then one day, at about two months or so, it just suddenly changed. We grew closer and things got easier. Everything will get better as she grows. Just be patient, though I know how hard it is to hear that. It will get better mama!

I was stressed in the beginning too! And was upset me and my SO weren't alone anymore but trust me it gets better. My daughter is only 6 months and I feel like its already better than when she was a newborn

Quoting Rydicule91:" Are you kidding? This smurf is hard as smurf no one has it down. It's just finding what works for you, ... [snip!] ... yes it gets easier!! They become more independent as they grow. Hang in there! You pm me if you want to talk or need help  "

aw thank you so much i was crying cuz i do everything its just hard as hell i guess hope it does start getting easier soon i feel so crazy

Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" Sounds like you're doing great mama! None of us knew what we were doing with our first kid, it's all ... [snip!] ... of adjustments but its worth it and everything will fall into place   you can pm if you ever need any help with questions  "

thank you very much i do try my hardest its so stressful right now im glad it gets easier tho

Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" Sounds like you're doing great mama! None of us knew what we were doing with our first kid, it's all ... [snip!] ... of adjustments but its worth it and everything will fall into place   you can pm if you ever need any help with questions  "

thank you very much i do try my hardest its so stressful right now im glad it gets easier tho

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" That's a long sentence. No one has it down. You learn as you go. Breastfeeding is a ton of work. I ... [snip!] ... is calming her down because she can sense how you feel, and if you're having a hard time and stressing out, she feels that."

oh my gosh i didnt know she could tell i gotta try to calm myself more its just hard when she wont stop crying and all her needs are met i just get over whelmed

Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" No one knows everything about parenting. You can read all the books, watch all the DVD's and get all the advice you can...the true learning process begins when you actually have that baby."

ya cause i read alot of book there very helpful but its alot harder when you actually have to do it like breastfeeding was so hard the first couple weeks i was not prepard for that i was so excited for the bonding part i didnt know it would hurt

Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" This. Parenting sucks sometimes, especially in the beginning. As she gets bigger, she will adapt to ... [snip!] ... they like dad better, etc. You could always ask dad if you could go for a break...to the movies or something. Hang in there!"

i know she always stops crying for him thats a good idea i havent gotten out in a long time i need a break thanks