gone, thank you.

Please don't quote:

Just listen.

But you need to be receptive.

Many people do have PTSD but generally they're not all boasty about it or going on about how they couldn't sleep because of it, and his you should've picked up your phone.

Make sure he's not using it as an excuse to get attention or sympathy from you. Or setting the stage to use it as an excuse later.

PTSD is a condition. But not an excuse for anything.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Just listen. But you need to be receptive. Many people do have PTSD but generally they're not all ... [snip!] ... sympathy from you. Or setting the stage to use it as an excuse later. PTSD is a condition. But not an excuse for anything."

Thank you, I do understand its a condition. I have my Bs in Social Work and Psychology. I am just wanting to help him to the best of my ability.

Just be honest with him, let him know you don't completely understand everything he is feeling or going though, but you want to be there for him no matter what, and are willing to listen to him any time. If you were sleeping, that's understandable that you didn't answer, don't feel bad. Good luck, mama, it sounds like he is lucky to have you!

Don't feel bad for not hearing your phone. But do let him know you are there for him. Don't push him to talk about anything, but if he needs to talk, listen.

The main this is try to not make him feel bad for it. He isn't going to use it as an excuse so ignore RB. My husband had it and he said it helped him a lot knowing that I was there, but I didn't push him.

You can PM me anytime if you need to talk.

Honestly hon there isn't much you can do. It is a terrible feeling to be helpless trust me I know. My husband went through something similar and it got so bad I almost dreaded going to sleep next to him. I told him my feelings eventually, and it hurt him badly. Now he sleeps so much better time is the only thing that helped. Just be there for him if you can. He will appreciate it.

Thanks so much ladies.
He is embarrassed about it and thought I would leave him.
I do however know that one of his best friends was killed there and he wears this metal braclet all the time and never takes if off.
I don't ask too much about it b.c its a touchy subject with him and I really don't know what to ask without making him upset or seem like a idiot. But I want to be there for him b.c hes important to me.