Lets just say pot is the main focus. Would you stay with your spouse knowing they smoked once or even on a regular basis? Given it doesn't truly effect how they handle life or your family. Basically the question is, would you stay?

I supposedly am such a pothead that I've tested clean many times. My soon to be ex husband keeps accusing me of being a drug addict and even posted that in a Craigslist AD 3 days after I left HIM. He was looking for a new woman. i can post the link. He was always lying, cheating with transsexuals and other women he meets online and hardly gave a rats ass for anyone, especially me and my kids. He wrote letters to me showing part of what I've dealt with for 2 years. Total bigot and control freak..here's a question to think about: why is it okay to be an addict when you stay with the cheating, lying, sleazy SOB if you stay with him ( when he's begging you to), but it's not when you calmly say no. I'm not a pothead. It's all because I went to see my family last December. I came back home the 24th from California, got tested 3 days later. If I did what he accused me of I wouldn't have been hired by this hospital. I have a slow metabolism. It would have been in my system, trust me..

Sorry if it doesn't make sense, but I'm angry and frustrated

My daughter's dad gets high (weed), and I don't have a problem with it as long as he doesn't do it around her.. & that's not the reason why we're not together..
I used to smoke too, but I quit because honestly I know what I'm putting at risk if & when I do.
He sounds like a sleezeball :p

Smoking pot, no. As long as it did not interfere with their personality and how they interacted with the family, job, etc. My husband used to but he had to quit as he couldn't handle being an adult and smoking too.

If he were shooting up it would be different. I wouldn't put up with that or be able to risk the things that come along with it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:Mini.Me:.:</b>" My daughter's dad gets high (weed), and I don't have a problem with it as long as he doesn't do it around ... [snip!] ... to smoke too, but I quit because honestly I know what I'm putting at risk if & when I do. He sounds like a sleezeball :p"</blockquote>




Oh if I had the time to post everything  

If this is about pot why would smoke or shot up be an option, you can't shoot up pot. lol


But I don't get the question.. did you smoke before you wrote this? lol

No I wouldn't because I've tried that and he just got worse with all the cheating and moved onto alcohol and harder drugs.

Now he never see's DS even though he can come anytime he wants and I haven't talked to him in going on two months.

Hopefully he stays gone this time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting http://i49.tinypic.com/14:</b>" If this is about pot why would smoke or shot up be an option, you can't shoot up pot. lol But I don't get the question.. did you smoke before you wrote this? lol"</blockquote>



No need to be snide. I just said pot was the main focus, but other crap included.

I do not agree with it at all. My husband was doing it behind my back for a while and if I find out again its over. Any drugs are a deal breaker for me.

Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting http://i49.tinypic.com/14:</b>" If this is about pot why would ... [snip!] ... you wrote this? lol"</blockquote> No need to be snide. I just said pot was the main focus, but other crap included."

If it was harder drugs like coke, heroin, pills and whatnot.. There's no way I'd let him be around my daughter..

<blockquote><b>Quoting susanesque:</b>" Smoking pot, no. As long as it did not interfere with their personality and how they interacted with ... [snip!] ... he were shooting up it would be different. I wouldn't put up with that or be able to risk the things that come along with it."</blockquote>




This exactly!

Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting http://i49.tinypic.com/14:</b>" If this is about pot why would ... [snip!] ... you wrote this? lol"</blockquote> No need to be snide. I just said pot was the main focus, but other crap included."

I was just kidding, you know I love you!

But seriously, I was giving you a hard time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:Mini.Me:.:</b>" If it was harder drugs like coke, heroin, pills and whatnot.. There's no way I'd let him be around my daughter.."</blockquote>



I feel that way as well. But for smoking pot so called one time? When kiddies are in bed? And one time means you have a serious drug addiction apparently. In my situation, it's a load of crap. He also thinks because I got one speeding ticket in the 5 years I've been a licensed driver makes me an unfit parent. His ex college roommate was supposedly a huge pothead too and that's a good reason to blow a full ride to a good school on a sports scholarship. That is a huge coincidence.. I have one page in particular that I want to post. Ill put it up soon as I can get it to load

<blockquote><b>Quoting http://i49.tinypic.com/14:</b>" I was just kidding, you know I love you! But seriously, I was giving you a hard time. "</blockquote>



Hahaha jeeeeese woman!
Feeling the love smurf!

His "logic" just doesn't make sense. What I can gather from it is basically this:

It's okay to have an addiction as long as you are smurfing me and putting up with my ridiculous childish behavior along with my family's, but bitch if you leave me ill take your kids out of spite and call you an addict and say I left you, not you left me.

Quoting Gir!:" His "logic" just doesn't make sense. What I can gather from it is basically this: It's okay to have ... [snip!] ... family's, but bitch if you leave me ill take your kids out of spite and call you an addict and say I left you, not you left me."

Why do you care?

If you don't do drugs, then you will test clean and there is no issue.

If you were stupid enough to post about your drug use online, knowing that he could use it against you for custody, there's a grand lesson learned.