Terrible Two's are Terrible!

For me, not for my son!!

Not only am I working full time, teaching my son part time, getting in shape, changing my diet (new lactose-vegetarian), just got a new car, moved to a new state (home sick like hell), paying bills, living with my parents (YEA! Great blessing but Lord I'm a 28 year old teenager. Parents will always be parents but can't wait to move further south not only to enjoy the beauty but I will have my own home!)

My son is 2 1/2 years old and not talking. He took a test, past everything but communication skills. Big damn deal!!!! But now I have to get involved with all this speech therapy and etc. I do not mind the extra work because he is my son but why treat this like its some major 2013 crisis! Good Lord!

Then on top of that, when my son was finished taking the state required test, since he failed in communication we qualified for the speech therapy. They hand me a whole binder full of resources and told me to take my son to play groups for mentally challenged and disabled children. WHATT??

WHY??? If I want my son to gain skills in communication why would I want him around children who didn't speak? TRASHED that crap! Plus my son is not retarded on any level. He's two year old for goodness sake. He tries to express himself, knows what he wants, lets me know hes hurting, plays like any normal two year old (just picky about who he plays with), likes girls, he is normal to me, he just isn't talking!!!!

I have took care of children for 15 years. Professionally and family; if I took every two year old I met and compared them, none of them will be the same. They will have similarities in some ways but not in one way other than the fact they are TWO!


I can deal with the dead beat daddy, I can deal with my sons up and downs, I can deal with the good and the bad, but what I can not deal with is people who think something is wrong with my child because he doesn't talk!!!

When I was in Kindergarten I didn't talk as well and they try to say I was mentally challenged. It was simply because I didn't want to talk. Why is that such a horrible thing and now you can't even get me to shut up LOL


The bottom line is I am his mother and I have faith in my son. He is in his terrible twos and I understand his frustration. He wants to communicate, he understands that we don't understand him, and he is improving. I am so sick of this world trying to compare everyone to this one way of life.

The information they gave me had pictures of mentally/physically challenged children advertising toys and one packet of info only had black people pictures throughout the whole packet. One of the phrases they suggest my son should know is "Where's daddy?"

I think all children are beautiful and are meant to be who they want. Even when I was a preschool teacher. If a child wasn't at a certain level, I just said okay, I didn't label them as something wrong, just an opportunity to get to know them and their learning style :-)


Excuse my grammar, etc-was in a hurry

I'm glad your child isn't a retard and sorry you had to look through information with pictures of only black people.

I wouldn't have any issues with my 2 1/2 year old being in a play group with mentally challenged children--honestly, I think that kiddos can sometimes learn the most from children with special needs. I'm sure they are just concerned and trying to catch any major delays before they become a real problem. All children do develop at different rates (my son still has zero interest in potty training) but you have obviously been to specialists, and I would be inclined to trust their opinions. He's not speaking at all? Because that does seem like something that should be addressed.

You ever think that maybe you're the problem? Maybe he's afraid to talk since you're so judgemental.

momma, you are doing just fine. he wil talk when he wants to. eff everyone else.

wow. Well, my child is in speech therapy for communication delays….I view it as giving him the best tools to catch up to his peers and become the best person he can be.

And I use the resources that gave me for "retarded" children, because a lot of their recommendations and input apply to raising a child with significant delays.

You sound incredibly ignorant.

Quoting ::Nikki:::" I wouldn't have any issues with my 2 1/2 year old being in a play group with mentally challenged children--honestly, ... [snip!] ... inclined to trust their opinions. He's not speaking at all? Because that does seem like something that should be addressed."

I would think being in such a diverse social group would help my child become accepting of people with differences….maybe that's just my take, though..

Quoting ::Nikki:::" I wouldn't have any issues with my 2 1/2 year old being in a play group with mentally challenged children--honestly, ... [snip!] ... inclined to trust their opinions. He's not speaking at all? Because that does seem like something that should be addressed."

Well I want my child around a group of children who interacts with other children socially. Its not the fact that they are mentally/physically challenged, its the fact they told me that the children might not speak so what is the point.

My son is speaking but not in two word sentences as much as they want him to.
He will say things like granddaddy, happy, ow-ie, drink, eat, cup, dirty, stop, leave me alone, being mean, airplane, belly button, nose, eyes, hi, bye, baby, etc, he just doesn't say them often. He sticks to 5 words daily.

Quoting Rd.:" I'm glad your child isn't a retard and sorry you had to look through information with pictures of only black people."

It was pretty funny

Quoting Heather ♥ 39 weeks:" You ever think that maybe you're the problem? Maybe he's afraid to talk since you're so judgemental."

The dumbest comment ever

Quoting Blessed2BStressed:" Well I want my child around a group of children who interacts with other children socially. Its not ... [snip!] ... being mean, airplane, belly button, nose, eyes, hi, bye, baby, etc, he just doesn't say them often. He sticks to 5 words daily."

then he shouldn't be considered delayed. He'd be on the back end of the average spectrum for words kids have by age two….but he wouldn't be considered delayed. At least not here.

Honestly, if he has that many words, I wouldn't be concerned. Are you guys in any play groups?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blessed2BStressed:</b>" It was pretty funny"</blockquote>


You know what's even funnier? Being the only white girl in a room. So many black people all around. I just like, laugh and smurf. You know what's even funnier? Retarded black people.

Can you believe the humour in that?
-insert eye roll-

Quoting ~*Icat*~:" wow. Well, my child is in speech therapy for communication delays….I view it as giving him the best tools ... [snip!] ... a lot of their recommendations and input apply to raising a child with significant delays. You sound incredibly ignorant."

Wow so just because I do want him going to a play group with socially delayed children I'm ignorant? Wow smart people in the world...uh no.

Its like saying I want to teach my son how to swim and throw him in a pile of dirt.

First of all my son do not even care about other children. Very rarely he takes interest in others. If you know him, you would understand why I want him around others who speak, its common sense to me

Well, he's 2. He should be saying something. If he's not, he's probably delayed.. not RETARDED.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blessed2BStressed:</b>" Wow so just because I do want him going to a play group with socially delayed children I'm ignorant? ... [snip!] ... takes interest in others. If you know him, you would understand why I want him around others who speak, its common sense to me"</blockquote>

That's like me saying that I don't want my son hanging around your son because your son is delayed in speech.