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Just support her, listen to her, and keep your opinions and thoughts to yourself!

That's tough but ultimately the decision is hers. It's hard to watch her do something she might regret, but you never know, she might not regret this and she may feel like she's doing right for the son she already does have.

All you can do is be supportive, be an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on and let her know that you will be there for her no matter what.

I firmly believe that if she isnt 100% sure she wants the abortion then she shouldn't get it. But honestly there isn't much you can do to change her mind if she's made that decision. I could never personally have an abortion but when my sister decided that she was having one I stood by her side 100%. She doesnt regret it even after being around my son. But she knew she didnt want kids so the situation is different.

My only suggestion is to maybe sit down and talk with her. Just the two of you and make sure she knows that not all pregnancies are the same and this one could very well be different than her last. And that she should be 100% sure this is what she wants.

Lots of hugs.

Quoting ♥MamaToSilas♥:" I firmly believe that if she isnt 100% sure she wants the abortion then she shouldn't get it. But honestly ... [snip!] ... are the same and this one could very well be different than her last. And that she should be 100% sure this is what she wants."

I know, && I would never try and talk her out of it to or make her feel worse about it.. but she KEEPS asking my opinion like she wants me to talk her out of it... and I just keep saying its UP TO YOU(then she tells me i'm no help), but i said if you wanna do just do and don't think about it... the more you think about it the more you may question your decision...

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Just support her, listen to her, and keep your opinions and thoughts to yourself!"

I do and I try but she keeps asking me my opinion and tells me i'm no help when I say it's up to her.. like she deep down wants me to talk her out of it..  

I all for just supporting.


but Im curious. Is the reason becuase of her last pregnancy being tough? or is there more?

Man there's a lot of ladies on BG considering abortion lately  

Unfortunately, I am one of them. As her BFF, I would advise her to atleast wait a few days and think the whole thing through. If she knows 100% that she wants to do it, say no more and just be there for here.

I wish he the best of luck with her decision.

Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" I all for just supporting. but Im curious. Is the reason becuase of her last pregnancy being tough? or is there more?"

I don't really know.. she said she just got her life back now that her son is older its easier to get a sitter.. and now she can finally go out more..
But when she said she would keep the baby if it wasn't for the pregnancy part i feel like that was her way of saying she really DID wanted it... that's why I think she wanted me to talk her out of it...


but i'm not.. I cant make this decision for her I can only be there for what ever she decides...

Quoting malibu.:" Man there's a lot of ladies on BG considering abortion lately   Unfortunately, I am one of them. ... [snip!] ... she knows 100% that she wants to do it, say no more and just be there for here. I wish he the best of luck with her decision."

well the clinic only does it on Thursday around here and that if their not already full for the upcoming week... Plus they give you a mandatory U/S as well to check the gestational age. So she does a few days.. and the U/S to change her mind.. but as of today she seems pretty adamant.

<blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" I don't really know.. she said she just got her life back now that her son is older its easier to get ... [snip!] ... to talk her out of it... but i'm not.. I cant make this decision for her I can only be there for what ever she decides... "</blockquote>




That doesn't sound like she "really wants it." If she had her son young, or younger, she may be feeling like she's getting to a place in her life where she can enjoy having a social life, going out, etc. Which is fine.

But good for you for remaining neutral and making her figure it out on her own.

You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. She is your best friend. She asked for an deserves your honest opinion. Mabe she does want your opinion to sway her decision in the direction of keeping her baby????? mabe u should specifically ask her that ! This isnt some random bg member looking for ''support'', this is YOUR BFF!
If she decides to keep her baby after your opinion /advice on the subject do you think she will regret it and blame u for helping to ''talk her into it''...... or possibly the reverse????

Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. She is your best friend. She asked for an deserves your ... [snip!] ... the subject do you think she will regret it and blame u for helping to ''talk her into it''...... or possibly the reverse???? "

See I have no idea she kept talking about it yesterday before she knew for sure.. and within 30 min of the BFP she was online looking up abortion clinics.. I think shes scared, confused, she doesn't wanna tell anyone not even her mom. Her SO said it would be nice to have another baby around but she doesn't think she could handle it.. ill try and talk to her tonight. see what she says, see if I can really tell if she want to abort it... deep down I don't think she does, and I don't want her to... she has a HUGE support group between her mom and sister and ME!
but again i cant make this decision for her... I can only be there her whatever she ultamently decides...

Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" You are stuck between a rock and a hard place. She is your best friend. She asked for an deserves your ... [snip!] ... the subject do you think she will regret it and blame u for helping to ''talk her into it''...... or possibly the reverse???? "

I agree with this, OP. I think being her best friend, you should have an honest conversation with her. She knows it's HER decision, but she needs some guidance in making the right one (although I think her SO should play a bigger role than you). Telling her again and again, "It's up to you", isn't offering her any insight.