Not happy...

Dh has been home from work for like 4-5days and hes just bothering the crap out of me. He is making mess after mess. I can't keep up with him and the kids, he hasnt helped at all around the house or with the kids (minimal if at all), hes laying around.... He is just bothering me. I can not wait for him to go back to work on Monday. Not to mention, my 4yo has been home from school since Wends due to snow and we have been stuck inside with a foot of snow outside...

I am at my witts ends.

Anyone else's DH help when they are home for extended periods of time?

Yes, DH helps me always. It's not voluntary but if I ask him he'll do it.

If my DH is home, parenting and household responsibilities are split 50/50. I'm not his mother, I'm his partner.

my SO will cook but will make me feel guilty about it.

he does the same thing if he cleans....acts like i never do anything! I work full time and take care of the baby...pisses me off.

Quoting Sara McPhail:" Yes, DH helps me always. It's not voluntary but if I ask him he'll do it."

Yeah DH will likely help if I ask too, but I am not his mother... He should know to clean up after himself and lend me a hand, no? Hes seen me cleaning since 9 this morning... wtf!

I don't know why anyone would put up with their SO acting like a man child, that would just drive me insane. My sons will know how to take care of a house just as well as my daughter will.

Quoting SavageDarling:" I don't know why anyone would put up with their SO acting like a man child, that would just drive me insane. My sons will know how to take care of a house just as well as my daughter will."

Would you care to offer some advice on how to not put up with it?

DH does a ton around the house whether or not he is on break, but since I know how hard he works full time and going to graduate school also, I try to let him relax more when he has time off.

Quoting SavageDarling:" I don't know why anyone would put up with their SO acting like a man child, that would just drive me insane. My sons will know how to take care of a house just as well as my daughter will."

I agree with this.

I am not married but when I was my ex was a 4th child. I had to constantly clean up after him and I hated it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" Yeah DH will likely help if I ask too, but I am not his mother... He should know to clean up after himself and lend me a hand, no? Hes seen me cleaning since 9 this morning... wtf! "</blockquote>



Yeah, if I'm up cleaning he won't do anything unless I ask. But, as far as helping with DS it's 50/50 when he's home. Even if he's worked that day. I think they have the anti-cleaning gene. Lol!

DH doesn't do smurf.
I had to show him how to turn on the garbage disposal the other day.
He's not super messy, he just doesn't do anything.
He works from home too so I know how non-stressful his job is.

DH always helps me. He even volunteers and asks if I need help doing anything or if I want to go out and he'll do what needs to be done.

Eh, half the time he does really well with helping out with the house.

Other time he just drives me nuts with how much he doesn't get done. Or how much he's willing to help everybody but us.

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" Would you care to offer some advice on how to not put up with it?"

Easy answer.....refuse to wash his clothing or cook him food. Btw, have u specifically asked him to help? men arent mind readers ! my SO will not ''help'' w/any housework unless i ask him or if i am not home because he know it drives me crazy to watch him do things (differently than i do). He always helps out w/the kids though.....

During the work week I clean and cook. I'm pregnant so no baby to look after yet lol on the weekends though the house is already picked up so I don't worry about that. And I make him food usually although I don't like to. What bugs the smurf out of me is he makes messes and doesn't clean them. Our counter is stained blue and red from the ice pop wrappers he leaves!! Or the clothes thrown about, or the soaking wet bathroom floor after he takes a shower. I have to tell him all the time I'm not your maid!! Gah