During the work week I clean and cook. I'm pregnant so no baby to look after yet lol on the weekends though the house is already picked up so I don't worry about that. And I make him food usually although I don't like to. What bugs the smurf out of me is he makes messes and doesn't clean them. Our counter is stained blue and red from the ice pop wrappers he leaves!! Or the clothes thrown about, or the soaking wet bathroom floor after he takes a shower. I have to tell him all the time I'm not your maid!! Gah
<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" Would you care to offer some advice on how to not put up with it?"</blockquote>
Well if he isn't willing to pitch in on his own you have to tell him to and make sure he knows that you expect him to help out without needing to he nagged. Tell him you're pissed off that you have to instruct him, like a child. Tell him you don't want to be his mother, you're already someone else's mother, you want a partner and that means he carries his own weight as far as the household responsibilities go.
Honestly, my husband went through a phase of being a huge lump sitting my way when we first bought our house. I told him I wasn't going to live in squalor and I wasn't going to be his maid so he needed to pitch in. If he noticed something needed to be done, clothes put in the hamper, kitchen wiped down, just do it. It is a lot easier to keep a home clean when EVERYONE is taking responsibility.
Get the snow gear on and go out and play with the kids. Wear them out and then get them down for a nap or quiet time. Then just breath. Maybe just take the older ones out in the snow and leave the younger inside with your SO then he has no choice but to get up and do something.
My SO is always helpful. Regardless of circumstance. He is very quick to help cook, clean, or look after the girls. Been down the road of someone who refused to do smurf. Leaving was the best choice ever.