im getting annoyed.

My friend has never liked my SO. Which I guess is fine, but she made her mind up about him before she met either of us in person ( I met her online). She is bi sexual and has told me before that she only was being a dick about him to get me to leave him so she could have a go with me ( I'm 100% straight and she knows this). She stopped for a year and now she is at it again even tho she is in her own relationship with a man.
SO and I are in a rough spot and of course her being my best friend I vent about it to her. She keeps texting me links to apartments, and saying she has friends who need a roommate. Telling me to foster a kid since then the government wil pay my rent and I can kick SO out.
I told her I'm not leaving him, because all relationships go thru issues. She doesn't seem to understand this since her longest relationship was a year and she left him because he watched porn once.

Its getting annoying and I want to just ignore her for a week but I can't do that because she is going thru smurf. She loses all her friends and family when she stops taking her pills, which she has (she can't afford them since losing her job).
I'm getting the feeling she wants me to be miserable along with her.  

I just needed to vent.

Some friendships you grow out of, and just need to let go. Ya you wanna be there but sounds like there is nothing you can do since she brings it on herself. But if you don't want to let the friendship you just need to tell her you don't mind helping her through a rough time but the advice she gives you is useless cause your not gonna leave your bf...

I don't think I'd continue the friendship. It's comparable to a male friend who tries to ruin your relationship and get with you. Most people wouldn't keep a guy friend like that, I wouldn't for a female either.

That's a "friend" you don't need.

I'd stop venting to her, if you know she's just going to come at you with stupid smurf .

<blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" That's a "friend" you don't need."</blockquote>




She is my only friend. So, yes she is a friend I need.

I had a friend like that once. We don't talk anymore, she went strange and started accusing me of deliberately ignoring her (which I wasn't) I was going through a hard time with ppd and she got mad coz I wasn't seeing her as much. That I didn't understand coz she had Post Natal Anxiety Disorder after her child. I thought she'd understand somewhat what I was going through. The final straw was BD commenting on a pic of our daughter on my FB page (which he had every right to do, he's her dad!) and she accused me of deliberately ignoring her yet again on a day I wasn't even in town. She blocked me on FB and started bad mouthing me. It all came back to me, it's a big town but everyone loves to gossip stuff eventually makes its way back to you! So I've cut ties completely, deleted her number, blank her when I see her around and I can't see her fb page anyway even if I wanted to. I was hurt for a while but I have to say I'm relieved in a way. None of my family ever liked her (I found out afterwards) they think she's sly and dangerous. There was always some drama going on in her life that I got dragged into a few times and she could get on my nerves at times! Kinda sad in 1 way coz we knew each other years since we worked together. She was there for me when I needed her before my daughter was born but completely changed afterwards. Sometimes it is better to cut ties even if it hurts badly. Maybe you could tell your friend that is what will happen if she doesn't stop trying to ruin your relationship?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" That's a "friend" you don't need."</blockquote> She is my only friend. So, yes she is a friend I need."</blockquote>




Then find new friends.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" ... [snip!] ... She is my only friend. So, yes she is a friend I need."</blockquote> Then find new friends."</blockquote>




Hahahaha. I'm glad you have it that easy. Go be a smurf some where else.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Clairebear & Abbey G  :</b>" I had a friend like that once. We don't talk anymore, she went strange and started accusing me of deliberately ... [snip!] ... hurts badly. Maybe you could tell your friend that is what will happen if she doesn't stop trying to ruin your relationship?"</blockquote>




I think she thinks I'll pick her over a man I've been with for 5.5 years and have two children with.
I just told her again this morning that I wasn't leaving my SO. And she then changed the subject.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Clairebear & Abbey G  :</b>" I had a friend like that once. ... [snip!] ... and have two children with. I just told her again this morning that I wasn't leaving my SO. And she then changed the subject."</blockquote>

My friend just didnt like BD when we were still together. I think she was glad when we broke up though she tried hard to hide it. She did get a bit clingy before my daughter was born and then afterwards it seemed she was resentful that I couldn't see her as much. She didnt even see DD for 2 weeks after the birth, she kept coming up with excuses for not visiting. She's got herself a new best friend now, it doesn't bother me anymore. Maybe if your friend starts talking about you leaving your SO again you could say that you might not talk to her again if she keeps it up, she might stop mentioning it altogether then.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Then find new friends."</blockquote> Hahahaha. I'm glad you have it that easy. Go be a smurf some where else."</blockquote>




Lol I'm not being a smurf and I only have 1 friend but she isn't someone who acts like that. It's the truth though you cut out people like that from your life or limit what you tell them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kimber-lily:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Glo♥:</b>" ... [snip!] ... someone who acts like that. It's the truth though you cut out people like that from your life or limit what you tell them."</blockquote>




Good for you and your friend I guess.