I was having coffee with a girlfriend yesterday and her dil brought over her grand daughter. I noticed that her ears are not pierce and the baby is going on 7 months. I asked about why they did not pierce the girls ears. She replied that its child abuse and you should wait until they are older like 6 or 7 to pierce their ears when it becomes the childs choice. When my step daughter turned 6 i took her to get her ears pierced and they did the first ear and she would not go back and get the other one done for 3 days, it was ridiculous. My thought is if you get them done as an infant, they wont remember it, the holes have a chance to completely heal and the baby will not play with the earrings as they wont know they are there. Can you guys give me feedback please? I just never heard someone call it child abuse before.

I don't think it's child abuse but I think that the child should have a say. I also think its completely unacceptable for you to pressure your STEP child or any child into getting his or her ears pierced. It isnt "ridiculous" that it took her 3 days to go back and get the other one done. It hurt. Also babies do play with their ear piercings just like they play with everyone else. It is also not your place to pressure other people into getting THEIR child(rens) ears peirced.

I wouldn't go to the extreme to say it is child abuse, but I would still wait to get it done. I had mine done as a baby and hated that my mom would make me wear earrings to keep my holes from closing up. There is really no benefit in getting them done as a baby versus when they are older, and it is just one more thing you have to keep up with as far as cleanings and such when you get them done.

IMO it's wrong. You are putting holes into a body that's not yours. I can't say it's abuse, but I also don't see a difference in piercing their ear, lip, or giving them a tattoo. All permanent body modifications.

Quoting Mrs.Dani:" IMO it's wrong. You are putting holes into a body that's not yours. I can't say it's abuse, but I also ... [snip!] ... abuse, but I also don't see a difference in piercing their ear, lip, or giving them a tattoo. All permanent body modifications."

Most piercings don't end up being permanent. Yes there is scarring usually, but not permanent.

Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" I don't think it's child abuse but I think that the child should have a say. I also think its completely ... [snip!] ... they play with everyone else. It is also not your place to pressure other people into getting THEIR child(rens) ears peirced."

in no way was i pressuring anyone to get their childs ears pierced, i merely made a comment that she did not get her ears pierced and i got this huge lecture that it was child abuse. yes, it was ridiculous because we should not have had to go back twice as they should have pierced both ears at the same time to avoid that. oh we explained to her exactly what would happen to her and told her it would hurt. i was mad at the piercing place. all three of my nieces had their ears pierced at 2 months and they never even knew the earrings were there till they were way older to understand not to play with them.

I don't think it really matters why someone else's child doesn't have their ears pierced. Why are you so concerned about it?

A baby can still hurt herself even if she got her ears pierced as early as possible.

Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" I don't think it really matters why someone else's child doesn't have their ears pierced. Why are you ... [snip!] ... Why are you so concerned about it? A baby can still hurt herself even if she got her ears pierced as early as possible."

i just never heard it be referred to as child abuse. we have been friends for over 12 years, its not like i was drilling her, i made a casual conversation comment and got the child abuse thing for an answer, just never thought about it that way.
please let me know how a baby can still hurt herself as you say. i would like to know your thoughts.

i am not posting this to be questioned and put down by others, i would just like to know, what would you all do? would you pierce your babies ears or not???

<blockquote><b>Quoting mama1821:</b>" i just never heard it be referred to as child abuse. we have been friends for over 12 years, its not ... [snip!] ... and put down by others, i would just like to know, what would you all do? would you pierce your babies ears or not??? "</blockquote>




They can easily pull on their ears and hurt themselves. They are to young to figure out that they are causing the pain.

I had mine done as a baby,
i flipped my smurf when I was a teen and got the double holes and *WTF* with the cartilage,
now I only have my original 1st holes, same holes as when I was a baby lol

I pierced Jades ears at 3 months, it was easier for them to heal because she didn't notice them...
now shes 3 and attempts to clean them, and chooses which 1's she wants to wear, I know if I had to take her now to get them done, it would be a disaster lol

I wouldn't. My mom took my daughter without my permission at four months old. Two weeks later she yanked it out. I woke up to a one earringed baby with a little blood from her yanking it out. I do believe at a young age they can still hurt themselves. I waited till she was five, explained it to her, let her know how they should heal, and that was that.

P.s. don't know if earringed is a word lol

Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:" I had mine done as a baby, i flipped my smurf when I was a teen and got the double holes and *WTF* with ... [snip!] ... them, and chooses which 1's she wants to wear, I know if I had to take her now to get them done, it would be a disaster lol"

did she ever pull on them as a baby and hurt herself? just asking because many others think that the babies can hurt themselves and i would like to explore all possibilities before i make the final decision to pierce my daughters ears. these are things i have not thought about before. thanks for your feedback!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Projectpaige:</b>" I wouldn't. My mom took my daughter without my permission at four months old. Two weeks later she yanked ... [snip!] ... five, explained it to her, let her know how they should heal, and that was that. P.s. don't know if earringed is a word lol"</blockquote>



I would be pissed if my mom pierced my kids ears!

Quoting mama1821:" i just never heard it be referred to as child abuse. we have been friends for over 12 years, its not ... [snip!] ... and put down by others, i would just like to know, what would you all do? would you pierce your babies ears or not??? "

I am not trying to put you down, please don't take it that way. I just feel like what others do with their children (for the most part) is their business.

The piercing itself can cause infection and scaring and there is also the possibility of her grabbing on to them and hurting herself or just getting stuck to something and possibly tearing her earlobe.

I personally waited for DD who is now 3 to ask for it to be done.