Hypothetically

Say you are in a long term relationship with someone. You discuss marriage and children. You are head over heels in love and you feel this person is your soul mate. You can't imagine life without them


And then one day it's over. They hurt you, or they just don't want to be with you anymore and you're confused. You're lost. Heart broken.

Say 5 years pass. Maybe 10. You've dated others but still love that person. But it will never work out.
You have a new SO. You love them too. You're just not completely over the ex.

You desperately want a family. SO really wants to get married and have a family.

Do you marry current SO so you can have your family and happiness? Or do you wait another 5 or 10 years alone?

Marry current SO

Uhm, sounds like somebody needs to move tf on!

I struggle with this now.

I'm still madly in love with my ex husband, but I know I should probably move on. Every date I go on, I feel like I'm settling because I want another kid and if my ex ever came back I'd be gone with the wind. Stupid, I know.

Edit: My divorce is still pretty fresh, who knows how I'll feel in a year from now.

Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" Uhm, sounds like somebody needs to move tf on!"

So much easier said than done.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Think Bαby:</b>" So much easier said than done."</blockquote>




I would say that if you're still crippled over a break up that happened 10 years ago...you're bordering psychopathy.

Quoting Think Bαby:" I struggle with this now. I'm still madly in love with my ex husband, but I know I should probably move ... [snip!] ... be gone with the wind. Stupid, I know. Edit: My divorce is still pretty fresh, who knows how I'll feel in a year from now."

If your divorce is fresh it's always going to be harder but time is the only thing that helps. You'd be surprised at how much less you give a crap even after 6 months.

ETA: I changed my response because I got you and the OP confused lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Think Bαby:</b>" So much easier said than done."</blockquote>




When its fresh then ya its easier said then done, but when its 5-10 years down the road, then you shouldn't have a problem moving on and working on a new relationship

When I met my DH we were young and crazy... Loved him with all my heart but life had other plans at the time. We broke up and I hadn't seen him in 6 years. I met someone else and he had gotten married. Then out of nowhere, baby daddy walked oit and took everything. I called my friend crying and they came over and had DH with them. His wife cheated and left him a few months before. After talking to him for a few hours, we realized that all that love was still there. Got married 3 months later. Been married 4 years this month! In all honesty though we never would have lasted back then. Being with other people helped us realize what we meant to each other and we had to get all the stupid out. So no one else can say really. It depends on the feelings between you guys. And how genuine they really are. But if you arent sure dont marry the new guy. He doesnt deserve that

I couldn't marry someone while still having feelings for another.

I would choose the option marry your current SO. I think maybe there are different types of love. Some people you are very passionate about, some you have a calm content feeling with. I dont think the different feelings of love mean you love one more then the other (hypothetically, I dont mean for you in particular).

Quoting Supafly★:" If your divorce is fresh it's always going to be harder but time is the only thing that helps. You'd ... [snip!] ... at how much less you give a crap even after 6 months. ETA: I changed my response because I got you and the OP confused lol. "

It's been 8 months   I just haven't met someone who is better than him!

Quoting Think Bαby:" It's been 8 months   I just haven't met someone who is better than him! "

You will. 8 months is a short amount of time.