re: Was I offensive?

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" First of all those dolls are $1000. Not something you can just "get" to make yourself feel better. ... [snip!] ... were you thinking linking her to a creepy facebook doll site?!!?!?!? that is the most unhealthy thing you could do to " heal":"

I don't think they're creepy at all. And I didn't tell her she had to get them. I said if she was interested she could take a look.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" First of all those dolls are $1000. Not something you can just "get" to make yourself feel better. ... [snip!] ... were you thinking linking her to a creepy facebook doll site?!!?!?!? that is the most unhealthy thing you could do to " heal":"</blockquote>




I didn't know how much they were. That's true,I just don't get this.

Honestly, while it's a sweet idea, it may be a bit offensive. I'm walking on eggshells around one of my friends right now, feeling bad because she just lost a baby and I'm still pregnant. I'm so careful what I say to her, I'm scared to even talk to her really. :\

Ive never had a loss, but i think those dolls are freaky as hell so i wouldn't have been appreciative, but i wouldn't have been offended. And a lot of parents find comfort in them.

It could go either way, it just depends on your friend. I can't imagine why she'd get offended by you thinking of ways to try to ease her pain though.

Quoting Minion:" I don't think they're creepy at all. And I didn't tell her she had to get them. I said if she was interested she could take a look."

I think you meant well, but.. honestly, if your child died, would you want an exact replica of them sitting on a shelf in your house? My guess is no. I can't see how this is a healthy way to grieve, and I worry that the women buying these dolls in remembrance of their babies will eventually forget that it is just a doll, and not their real child...

I think that's an incredibly insensitive thing to even suggest. Poor woman! We wouldn't be friends after that.

Quoting *~AngelEyes~*:" Honestly, while it's a sweet idea, it may be a bit offensive. I'm walking on eggshells around one of ... [snip!] ... she just lost a baby and I'm still pregnant. I'm so careful what I say to her, I'm scared to even talk to her really. :\"

OP, i'm sure you meant well, i really am. but first of all, there is NOTHING that can make this woman feel better.
you do know this, right?
no doll, no website, no links. don't try to sell her smurf. let her know you're there, and then leave her in piece.

and those dolls are 100% sick. no one can be comforted by that. making a replica of a corpse and keeping it around in her house is terribly, terribly ill.
there is a reason why we build cemetaries away from residential areas.
you're supposed to let the dead die in peace.
not ... whatever that doll is.
it's an abomination.

I might be weird, but if LO would happen to pass, I would love a doll that looked like him. It would be 20 times better than just having pictures and videos I would watch everyday. I would have a chance to "hold" him again.

Most people are freaked out by those dolls though. I like them.

I was even thinking about eventually getting someone to make my son as a newb one day.

Quoting Dovahkiin:" I think you meant well, but.. honestly, if your child died, would you want an exact replica of them ... [snip!] ... buying these dolls in remembrance of their babies will eventually forget that it is just a doll, and not their real child..."

I honestly would probably want a doll like that of my child if she died. I'm an oddball, though.

I think it kind of is actually. I mean she JUST lost her baby.

Quoting 6 til Gwen:" Ive never had a loss, but i think those dolls are freaky as hell so i wouldn't have been appreciative, ... [snip!] ... it just depends on your friend. I can't imagine why she'd get offended by you thinking of ways to try to ease her pain though."

Agreed. At least OP didn't just ignore her in fear of offending her. She at least tried to reach out.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I don't think they're creepy at all. And I didn't tell her she had to get them. I said if she was interested she could take a look."</blockquote>

What did your friend say in response?

Quoting Mom-moo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I don't think they're creepy at all. And I didn't ... [snip!] ... had to get them. I said if she was interested she could take a look."</blockquote> What did your friend say in response?"

She said, "Ok, thanks. I'll take a look."

I don't believe you did it to be insensitive or malicious. I wouldn't be offended, sometimes people don't know how to comfort someone in times of sorrow, so they try the best they can, and this was your way. I'm sure she knows you care and were just trying to help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" She said, "Ok, thanks. I'll take a look.""</blockquote>

Oh okay. Well, I hope it doesn't upset her.