The truth about being a mother part 1 super human expectatio
posted 7th Mar
I have decided to make a series of post over the next couple months outline the truth of motherhood. I am posting this in the D&D section of BG for those who choose to discuss or debate these topics. However what I am going to write I feel is the real truth of being a mother no matter age, race, ethnicity, ect.
Part 1 Super human expectations
From the time you conceive you are put under a microscope. You are judged for every decision you make for yourself and your child/ren. From whether you decide to abort, adopt, or raise your child to the type of birth you choose to have. Everything you do is seen either as the right or wrong choice. Even by people who go completely unaffected by your decisions. You are constantly met with judgmental stares and snide comments. Because no matter what you are screwing up as a mother.
When you decide to breastfeed you are met with rude looks from strangers when trying to BF in public (which can be difficult enough for a new mother and baby to get use to) or hurtful comments from family about not "sharing" your child. If you choose to formula feed then you are selfish or did not try hard enough to bf. No matter the choice no one cares that you love your child, that they are happy and healthy, or even fed. You are making the wrong decision in their eyes and there for you are unfit to have your child/ren.
When your out in public and your child/ren is tired and having a bad day you are judged as being a bad parent because if you child/ren behave this way then obviously you do not discipline them. If you do attempt to discipline your child/ren in public you are met with even more harsh words and looks because you are either being mean or abusive in some way.
Even the government feels they have a right to tell you what is an acceptable way to parent. And while some laws do protect our children others cause more harm than good. Laws that give judges the right to tell you where you are allowed to live, how you are allowed to date, who you can live with, or even where you can send your child to school. And all with out any real knowledge of your personal situation.
As mothers it is not acceptable to the majority of society that we should have wants or needs outside of our child/ren. They should always be seen as enough and the rest of our lives should be put on hold for them. We should bend over backwards to make sure that they are getting everything they need, want, and deserve even if we suffer for it. Anything less is seen as selfish and wrong. Even the most basic necessities we should be willing to sacrifice in order to give what others feel is the best for our child/ren. No matter whether they can live quite happily without it or not.
The only sympathetic eye you may meet on the road through motherhood is that of another mother. Only another mother can understand the hard, exhausting, and difficult journey you are under taking to produce a happy, healthy individual who will hopefully one day be a successful member of society.
In the end society expects super human feats from mothers. We are always suppose to know and do the right thing. And as is the case of every super human before us society feels the divine right to watch us and make sure we are doing our job as they feel we should. This in the end causes each of us to feel as though we have failed our child/ren in one way or another, because after all we are not super human. We are merely ordinary people who are doing our best every day. Loving, teaching, and guiding our children through the many hurtles of life until the day that they must take leave from our arms and our homes to make their own way in this unforgiving world.