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If you don't want one don't have one. It's your body and only you can make that choice. Then be can decide if he wants to be there or not.

If you don't want to get one then don't. But you also cannot force your SO to parent, and if he doesn't will your be ok doing it alone?

If you decide to keep it, you have to be able to deal with the fact that he may leave. You just have to weigh the pros/cons of that. You can always get pregnant again when he's ready, but on the other hand... he won't always be there. Good luck in whatever you choose!

If you don't want one then don't, your body not his.
He will have to get over it or leave.

Quoting malibu.:" A little backstory... The beginning of last month I stopped taking my BC because I wasn't taking it correctly ... [snip!] ... 23. SO just bought a house, I'm graduating college in a month.. I just don't feel like we're incapable of making this work  "

Its you're child too, not just his. All i can say is maybe just have a long talk, tell him exactly how you feel. If it were me i wouldn't do it just because he doesnt want it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting malibu.:</b>" A little backstory... The beginning of last month I stopped taking my BC because I wasn't taking it correctly ... [snip!] ... 23. SO just bought a house, I'm graduating college in a month.. I just don't feel like we're incapable of making this work  "</blockquote>



It's your body, you make the choice! Try talking to him so he understands where you are coming from.

My thoughts on it, if a man truly doesn't want to be a dad he should wrap it up. Even if he thought you were on BC, it can fail and sometimes us humans are just irresponsible. He has a responsibility to protect himself and if he doesn't, well he doesn't get to blame you. It takes two to make a baby. Don't do anything YOU don't want to do.

First and foremost. Your body your choice! I understand the situation sit down and talk w him about it. Explain your views and what you feel is best for all of you. I had an abortion when I was 17 my bf at the time was abusive and addicted to drugs I was scared and felt hopeless. I did what I thought was right for myself and the baby. But theres not a day that goes by where I dont think of what I did and if I made the right decision. No matter what you do there are pros and cons at the end what can you live with? Good luck!

You don't owe it to him to kill the baby that you seem to want. IMO, I don't think what he wants should impact your decision. It's your body and it's your child also. And you sound like you are in a position to manage another child, he may feel differently about it before long. I mean, obviously you made a mistake not telling him you were off BC, but what's done is done. It's not his decision to make.

<blockquote><b>Quoting malibu.:</b>" A little backstory... The beginning of last month I stopped taking my BC because I wasn't taking it correctly ... [snip!] ... 23. SO just bought a house, I'm graduating college in a month.. I just don't feel like we're incapable of making this work  "</blockquote>



Ok imo your choice keep the baby dh and I were ttc with both babies and then when I got the positive on the test he was like maybe im not ready and he was scared but when he held dd for the first time he was just amazed. I think most dads are scared at first.

Good luck

Quoting Lady GooGoo™:" You don't owe it to him to kill the baby that you seem to want. IMO, I don't think what he wants should ... [snip!] ... I mean, obviously you made a mistake not telling him you were off BC, but what's done is done. It's not his decision to make."

So women should completely disregard everything their SO wants? That's not fair, either.


*Not trying to debate in your thread, OP. But... I do believe you need to take his wants into consideration. And if you don't, ask yourself if you can handle him leaving and parenting, again, on your own.

Quoting Mrs.Rachael +2:" My thoughts on it, if a man truly doesn't want to be a dad he should wrap it up. Even if he thought you ... [snip!] ... and if he doesn't, well he doesn't get to blame you. It takes two to make a baby. Don't do anything YOU don't want to do."

Exactly what i say all the time. If someone doesnt want a child get protection, prevent it. Ive had numerous friends older than me that said they didnt want anymore and ended up pregnant.

Don't do it unless YOU want to.. If not you will regret it for the rest of your life, It will probably eat and you, screw you up big time..

The only time someone should get an abortion is if it's 100% their choice and they are 100% sure they can and want to go through with it.

He will get over it, Even on BC he was taking the chance by having sex. That fails too, He will need to just get over it. He's likely to come around to the idea sooner than later.

I see this kind of thing a lot on here... but more of the after story of women saying their SO wanted the girl to have an abortion... she didnt and then was surprised when their boyfriend left them. Im not trying to be mean. You do what you want, but if he wants an abortion then he doesnt want a kid. Its not very often a guy changes his mind and sticks around forever once the baby if born.If he changes his mind completely soon, then maybe it isnt a bad idea but if you decide to have this baby and your 9 months pregnant and he still doesnt want anything to do with the baby... its a good chance he's not going to stick it out when newborn life sets in. Im NOT saying get one. But you are kind of making a choice between him and the baby. So the question is, are you going to be ok as a single mom of a newborn and 4 year old? Can you do it financially? mentally?