re: Step Parents/Parental Figures

Quoting Schmayder ♥:" By our names, there's been a few times his oldest (11) has called me mom but she just says whoops & ... [snip!] ... their mom's house and my son's dad is very involved so I don't really see that changing much as far as how they address us  "

Haha that's cute   It sounds like you guys get along very well, that's so wonderful. DD calls SO "daddy" sometimes, but mainly uses his first name...He was caught off guard the first few times, and we'd gently try to correct her and remind her of his name, but it just didn't stick lol...She just feels comfortable calling him Daddy sometimes, and he's okay with that. She knows who her real dad is, and still calls him daddy when he comes to visit, but she's not as close to him, and that is his own fault.

Quoting [Gryffinwhore♥]:" I'm a little late to this party, but oh well. lol. The guy I'm in a relationship with now, actually ... [snip!] ... are MY children after all. But I think it's a good judge of how he'll treat our children if/when we have them in the future. "

That's exactly how I feel too. I couldn't imagine being with SO if he didn't love my daughter. You don't expect it right away, or even to the level a bio mom or dad loves their child, but you do expect SOME kind of emotional connection, and the person to care about your childs well being and happiness, and have a genuine love and care for them. It has to grow and develop over time, and that is perfectly fine. Better to try a little than not try at all.

Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" Haha that's cute   It sounds like you guys get along very well, that's so wonderful. DD calls SO "daddy" ... [snip!] ... her real dad is, and still calls him daddy when he comes to visit, but she's not as close to him, and that is his own fault. "

That's so great you've found someone to help you raise your LO! Looking back I don't know where I would be or how my life would have turned out if it weren't for SO. He kinda saved me  

Quoting Schmayder ♥:" That's so great you've found someone to help you raise your LO! Looking back I don't know where I would be or how my life would have turned out if it weren't for SO. He kinda saved me   "

That's how I feel too, it's really hard to admit it, but sometimes you need a little help....I know I did and I still do, but things are improving little by little, and it's nice to have support  

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:</b>" A teammate is necessary in all relationships, it's a shame they aren't like that usually though lol. "</blockquote>




They should be. If its not, you're in the wrong relationship.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:</b>" What if marriage came into the picture? Would you ever marry someone who never had an emotional connection ... [snip!] ... connection to your kids? (And I mean kids you have full time, not kids who visit on weekends and live with the other parent) "</blockquote>




Like they're not even friends?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:</b>" I completely 100% understand. I went through the exact same thing. My mom and her boyfriend got together ... [snip!] ... father figure behavior. I wasn't planning on ever even dating again, but divorce happened, and well, here I am lol. "</blockquote>




Wow glad to know im not the only one it happened to, I'm sorry it happened to you though... I'm sure youll make the right decision  

I let my SO know that if he couldn't accept and care deeply about my kids that oru relationship would not work. I understood it takes time to develop a relationship and things haven't always been great but in the end the kids love him and he loves them. he helps me out a lot with them. more than their dad ever did when he lived with us.