My sister has 2 children. Her DD is 7 and DS is 5.
Right from the very moment her son was born, you could clearly see the favouritism. And it's only got worse the older they get. Her DD has always had massive birthday parties with 100+ people, or has gone to some amazing theme park, or indoor play centre. While her DS has only had parties at home with just family, prob around 10-12 people. And while her DD gets a party every year, DS only gets one every 2nd year.
Since her DD was 2, she had her in swimming lessons, and dance classes....still does the dancing to this day. Her DS has never done any type of extra curricula activities. He has begged my sister to let him do soccer (he's really good at it) but she won't let him, as all her money goes on travelling and dance costumes for her DD.

This absolutely frustrates the smurf out of me. My nephew is such a sweet, quiet, caring lil boy, yet just gets pushed to the side like he's nothing. Iv offered to take him out on weekends, or have him overnight, just so it feels like he gets to do something fun too....but she wont let him. He always has to get dragged to all of his sisters dance concerts and recitals. It's just not fair.

My sister and I have only just started to get along the past 2 years, after a massive family feud 8 years ago. How can I say something to her, without sounding mean, or too hateful?

That's so horrible. I feel so bad for that little boy.

thats so sad.
as a mother no i don't have a favorite. i spoil both my children, just not the same way because of the age difference. from the outside it could look like i m buying my first more toys than my 2nd. but it s only because my 10 months old son doesnt show much interest in toys.

Where is the father & why doesn't he do something about this? That's so terrible. That poor little boy is going to start resenting his mother & sister. His sister might start resenting her after a few years too. I would never pick a 'favorite' EVER.

As sad as it is its not your place to say anything.

Sorry forgot to say that her husband is in the picture, and is the exact same. DD is daddy's lil princess, and DS is somewhere in the background. It's super sad. It's been like this since he was born. He was a restless baby, and never slept. She had threatened to do some horrible things, so my mum and I discussed it, and took him out of her care for the first few months of his life.

<blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" Sorry forgot to say that her husband is in the picture, and is the exact same. DD is daddy's lil princess, ... [snip!] ... to do some horrible things, so my mum and I discussed it, and took him out of her care for the first few months of his life."</blockquote>

That's just sad   But sadly there's no law that says you have to spoil all of your children so there's not much that can be done about it. I do think she should go to parenting classes or something so she could see the risks behind what she's doing

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" Sorry forgot to say that her husband is in the picture, ... [snip!] ... be done about it. I do think she should go to parenting classes or something so she could see the risks behind what she's doing"</blockquote>


She went to parenting classes when he was younger. The worst part is, she doesn't see it. She doesn't see that she is favouring her DD over DS. Everyone else can, but her. Our mum has tried talking to her about it, but she just blocks it out, coz she doesn't think there's anything wrong.
He is such a sweet boy. He's really timid and quiet though. He won't talk unless he is told he's allowed to talk. He is going to resent them both so much when he is old enough to see what it going on.