marriage advice.

I really need some advice and opinions about my marriage from those who don't know me or my husband personally. i feel like our family and friends take sides instead of being honest and saying how they really feel.

my husband and i have been married for two years and have a child together who is almost a year old. he's a good husband, a good person, and a good dad to our child. we've had our share of ups and downs, arguments, and disagreements, but we seemed to pull through. at the beginning of our relationship, we had a lot of trust issues between us (me not trusting him) because of many lies. the lies even continued after we got married. though he's a good person and a good father to our child, i do not trust him, and i don't think i ever will trust him 100% again, and it makes our relationship very stressful. he says he's so in love with me and that he's so happy, but for some reason i just don't feel the same. the connection and love he says he feels between us is not a mutual feeling. i'm not sure why. i don't know if it's the trust issue, or if it's just my feelings for him have changed. i care for him, i'd do anything in the world for him, but i don't feel the love for him that you should feel for your spouse. i don't hold a grudge for the lying and trust issues, though i did for a while. but i finally learned to let go and forgive. things are just not the same. we've talked, tried counseling, poured our hearts out to each other and nothing has changed. it's so difficult for me to deal with this situation because we are married. if we were only dating or engaged, i would have left by now. not because he's a bad person, but because i'm unhappy. but because of our marriage, i feel like i'm stuck and have no way to get out of it. and i don't want anyone to get hurt. i also feel like if we split up, i will never find someone else, and it will hurt our child in the long run. but on the other hand, i feel like if i stay, it's for the wrong reasons and is selfish of me.
he knows i've been unhappy for a while, he knows how i feel. i've been very honest with him, and i always have been. the "spark" just isn't there anymore.
it's very confusing and i feel like i'm such a bad person for feeling this way. how can you leave someone that claims to love you so much? how do you look someone in the face and tell them you want out of the relationship?
i feel so guilty. any advice/opinions are greatly appreciated.
thank you.

Can I ask why you don't trust him? What were the lies about? Was he unfaithful?

Sounds to me like you already know what you want. To leave. If you are that unhappy and you don't fully trust him, I would just tell him. It would be better to be apart and you both be happier in the long run, than to stay and become more miserable.

Trust needs to be there 100%, if you truly don't think you can ever trust him, get out. The marriage is over already unfortunetely without complete trust

Quoting Dovahkiin:" Can I ask why you don't trust him? What were the lies about? Was he unfaithful? "

I agree, you don't distrust like that overnight.

If you're not happy and won't be happy, you need to get out. If you wait until your child is older it will get more complicated and be harder on them.

I'm glad you posted here because you really seem to want an unbiased opinion. Unfortunately, you may get lots of postings telling you to do whatever feels best to you.I have been married for 33yrs and I can honestly say that there are times during your marriage when you don't necessarily "feel" in love. Feelings come and go and typically shouldn't be the basis for a decision of this magnitude. I know it's not exactly a news flash...but marriage takes work..hard work. A really insightful article to read about falling in and out of love is found here on the Focus on the Family website. http://bit.ly/W8udf6 Really, you haven't been married very long. Also, since you mention having a child under a year old, would there any possibility that some post partum depression could be involved here? idk...just trying to help you think through it a bit.