Quoting Is that still my name?:" Yeah, I think that's the problem. I had BD forever. So now that he's out of the picture, I guess I'm ... [snip!] ... and the reasons we wouldn't ever become a couple are obvious. I just can't decide if I should keep him around or not."
I think you just need to decide what you can and can't handle with this dude then.
Cos when i think about friends with benefits or whatever, i dont really think about a "special relationship". I think about the perks of having consistent sex with someone that otherwise you don't have to care about.
BUT i really enjoy being single and not being bothered by someone else wanting attention, sooo- yeah