What is the big freaking deal?

I'm copping smurf off my mum, telling me it's "not right" that I let my 5 year old and 3 year old boys run around the house with no clothes on. Summer is over now and it's cooling down here so it won't be all the time when it's cold.

I don't know where I came from because SO agrees that DS1 is "too old" now. My brothers agree with her, too. I know there's going to be a lot of people who agree but I just honestly don't understand what's so "wrong" about it. It's a body... we all have one and I want them to be comfortable in there's. God knows I'm not comfortable in my own skin. I've always had self esteem/confidence issues... pretty sure I know why and who's influence that is.

Quoting -()-()-()-:" What is the big freaking deal? I'm copping smurf off my mum, telling me it's "not right" that I let my ... [snip!] ... in my own skin. I've always had self esteem/confidence issues... pretty sure I know why and who's influence that is."

I'm sorry. I have no idea. My son is 4 and will have a full blown conversation with me if I am in the bathroom, DH gets mad and tries to send him out. I'm like what the hell is the big deal? If you don't make it a big deal, he won't either. Things like that irk the smurf out of me.

If they want to run around their own house naked I don't see a problem.

My opinion is what goes on in your home is your business. If you don't have a problem with it, no one else should either.

It's not socially acceptable. Unless it's a hot 20 year old chick on a billboard or magazine cover.

It makes some people uncomfortable because it's not the "norm". We also like to pervert everything, and it automatically becomes "sexual" even though they are children and it's sick to think that way.

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Quoting Pusherman:" My opinion is what goes on in your home is your business. If you don't have a problem with it, no one else should either. "

I pretty much agree with this...except even if I don't have a problem with it, clearly others will, I just don't give a smurf  

I'd be a lot cooler with my son running around naked if we didn't live with family, including three little girls whose parents are mortified of their girls seeing my son naked. So rather than get bitched at ALL THE TIME, I try to make sure he's at least wearing naked.

If we didn't live with family, it would be a different issue. lol

My son is 4 and still showers with me, he's in the room when I'm changing. Totally not an issue for me. Someday he'll have his own sense of what he considers appropriate modesty, and he probably won't do the same things he does now, but until then, it doesn't bother me. lol

Being modest, myself, I would put the kibosh on any nudity outside of the home and I wouldn't be nude in front of my son, after he became verbal.

To each their own.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss Molly!:</b>" It's not socially acceptable. Unless it's a hot 20 year old chick on a billboard or magazine cover. ... [snip!] ... becomes "sexual" even though they are children and it's sick to think that way. I don't see anything wrong with it."</blockquote>


Sounds about right & I know in that way, I'm not the norm. I'm not a sexual person, at all. Never have been. I've never masturbated and I'm 24 years old. I just have never felt the need. I enjoy sex on occasion, I guess but it's not the be all and end all of everything for me... The main objective I see for sex, is creating life. lol. Maybe that's why I see things differently?

Quoting Emmy&Jazzy:" I pretty much agree with this...except even if I don't have a problem with it, clearly others will, I just don't give a smurf  "

Meh, it's more like don't bother telling people about it if you don't want them to disagree, you know?

But then I saw her SO doesn't like it either.

Quoting Autumn Whisper:" I'd be a lot cooler with my son running around naked if we didn't live with family, including three little ... [snip!] ... considers appropriate modesty, and he probably won't do the same things he does now, but until then, it doesn't bother me. lol"

I agree with you 100% My son doesn't take showers, if he did and wanted to shower with me I wouldn't care. I think kids know so much more now at an earlier age because their parents make it such a big deal. I let my son run around naked in my moms back yard the other day. Whatever works lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Autumn Whisper:</b>" I'd be a lot cooler with my son running around naked if we didn't live with family, including three little ... [snip!] ... considers appropriate modesty, and he probably won't do the same things he does now, but until then, it doesn't bother me. lol"</blockquote>


My kids still jump in the shower with me. I don't know what "age" we'll stop that... I don't know that giving a number is appropriate. We'll go by our feelings... Of course one day it's probably inevitable that it will become uncomfortable for one of us, as they grow older but right now they're still my babies.

I don't think there is anything wrong with this. As long as you and your husband don't make a big deal about it, then the kids won't think it's a big deal. But you do have to ask yourself, when is the cutoff acceptable and stick to that. Don't let what other people say bother you, let the boys have fun while they can. You're not a kid forever!

I'm in different scenario, my husband and I love to walk around the house naked right now, I'm totally comfortable in my own skin (btw, I'm obese, but I still don't care). We've done this since we started to live together about 6 years ago. My sister-in law thinks its gross and the only time people should walk around naked are when they're showering/getting out of the shower. Now of course when I have my son, I won't do it, or VERY minimally, but I say this, everyone is naked under all their clothes. What is the big deal!!! We should teach our kids to be confident in their own skin.

Quoting katxo[14wks]:" I agree with you 100% My son doesn't take showers, if he did and wanted to shower with me I wouldn't ... [snip!] ... their parents make it such a big deal. I let my son run around naked in my moms back yard the other day. Whatever works lol"

I climb in the bathtub with my son/he climbs in the shower with me. It's innocent.

People make it sexual because of their own hangups, but it's really not.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Meh, it's more like don't bother telling people about it if you don't want them to disagree, you know? But then I saw her SO doesn't like it either."</blockquote>


It's just my close family. So they know... It's not me going around telling them.

&SO never used to have a problem with it but suddenly started saying he was too old... I mean, he doesn't force the issue so it's not like it's a huge deal for him or anything. I think he's uncomfortable by the fact that the 2 boys are curious & rather than explaining their bodies and why we don't touch each others private parts and don't let anyone else touch them, he just wants to throw clothes on them so they forget about it... I don't agree and I talk to them in age appropriate way about all that.