re: meep

Quoting My boys=My life~8weeks:" But it being his actual blood child, the single one will get jealous that her child is 'less involved'.. ... [snip!] ... Chances are he will not help with the newborn stage & won't have the same bond that he has with his and his wifes child."

can we say for hypothetical reasons that this would not be a issue. since this is hypothetical anyway  

Quoting I Stab People:" he is already a "dad" to your current kids tho. family dinners, family vacations, all together kind of like a plural marriage but without the sex. it was this way when you wernt single as well"

is he going to stay over and help with diapers and sleepless nights? go to BOTH u/s appointments? both births?!
what if he got a job offer in another state or country? would you go? what if they didnt want you to come?
will your kid be upset when he puts his marital family over your kid? if he saves more money for their futures, contributes to their weddings first houses but cant afford to or wont for yours?

Quoting I Stab People:" can we say for hypothetical reasons that this would not be a issue. since this is hypothetical anyway  "

In a hypothetical way this could all work out with rainbows and unicorns on the side.

If I were in the situation mama bear would come out and be pissed that her child is 'loved less'. I think any mom would end up feeling this way at some point.

Absolutely NOT. Soooooo many things could go wrong.

Quoting I Stab People:" can we say for hypothetical reasons that this would not be a issue. since this is hypothetical anyway  "

but it WOULD be in a hypothetical situation. just because its hypothetical it doesnt mean the people dont have any negative feelings about anything.

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" is he going to stay over and help with diapers and sleepless nights? go to BOTH u/s appointments? both ... [snip!] ... kid? if he saves more money for their futures, contributes to their weddings first houses but cant afford to or wont for yours?"

he stays overnight already, they have sleep overs (they are neighbors) and he helps with all the kids. he also, already goes to dr appts for kids so yes, he would go to the u/s and pregnancy apts.

money is not an issue at all, both sides are equally wealthy

I wouldn't do it in a million years. That's just creepy.

Quoting I Stab People:" he stays overnight already, they have sleep overs (they are neighbors) and he helps with all the kids. ... [snip!] ... for kids so yes, he would go to the u/s and pregnancy apts. money is not an issue at all, both sides are equally wealthy"

the married man goes and sleeps at the single woman's house without his wife?

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" the married man goes and sleeps at the single woman's house without his wife?"

no, the single mother comes over to their house with the children.

Quoting I Stab People:" no, the single mother comes over to their house with the children."

she wouldnt want to do that much with a newb, would he come and stay alone? monday wednesday and friday nights at one house anf the rest at the other?

Might as well just invite her into the relationship.  

Nope, I wouldn't do it. Sounds really weird and like the guy is already in a relationship with both women but the only thing that isn't going on is sex. I mean, cool for other people, but I wouldn't do it.

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" she wouldnt want to do that much with a newb, would he come and stay alone? monday wednesday and friday nights at one house anf the rest at the other?"

why would he have to stay nights? my kids father never took a single night shift with any of our kids lol

Imagine explaining that to a young child