If you found gay porn...

In your teen's room, what would you do? Talk to them about it? Pretend you didn't see it? Tell your spouse?
Assuming they are not "out".

I would talk to them.

Eh, I think I would talk to them about safe sex in the most general of terms (not being specific to gay or straight)... but leave it at that.

I think it's pretty normal for a teen to look at porn... and I don't think it being gay or straight has any impact on what I would talk to them about.

I would share it with my spouse, just so they were aware, but not so they could go have a sit down or anything like that to "find out what was going on".

YEah i would talk them. I mean didnt most of us look at some sort of porn as a teen? Loliknow i did. I was a horny teenager, had a vibrater and everything. I think its normal. May be awkward but iwouldnt go in assuming they were gay but i would the point to say that being gay is nothing they had to worry about with us.

I would *try* to wait to talk about it when they're comfortable. I would just talk to my Dh about it and make sure we are on the same page as far as the discussion goes.

That way first I would have time to swallow the info I just got about my kid, and not say anything out of shock. Kwim?

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Eh, I think I would talk to them about safe sex in the most general of terms (not being specific to gay ... [snip!] ... just so they were aware, but not so they could go have a sit down or anything like that to "find out what was going on"."</blockquote>




I mention gay because talking to a spouse would have the potential of "outing" your child before he or she was ready.

Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Eh, I think I would talk to them about safe ... [snip!] ... I mention gay because talking to a spouse would have the potential of "outing" your child before he or she was ready."

Hm. What do you mean outing? Like... your spouse may know your child was gay before they were ready to tell them?

I mean... IMO... being gay OR straight is nothing that needs to be "revealed" in some crazy way.... though I know maybe a teen would feel that way.

I know for a fact my fiance would not share that information with anyone else before my child was ready, or push him or her to talk about it before he/she was ready... his best friend is gay, and had a hell of a time coming out to him. He knows that it may be difficult to come out, but just accepting that person and not pushing the issue is the best way to deal with it.

I would share it with my spouse only because it's his child, too, and I would hope we have the relationship where we talk about our kids and not hide things, even if they turn out to be nothing. Yaknow?  

I would bring up practicing safe sex and have "the talk" but I wouldn't bring up the gay part. They will come out when they're ready - if they're actually gay.

Plus, I like gay porn and I'm straight as hell.

How old is he exactly. I would def talk to him and make him.feel.comfortable to talk to you and that he can tell you everything. Who does he feelmore comfortable talking to mom or dad? I would be curious to what is his sex preference just to be prepared and not hear it from someone else. I dont see why he has to look at gay porn. Hmmm def talk to him hun. Hope eveything goes well.

I would probley ignore the fact that I found it, its normal for teenager to have such things I didnt but both my little brothers did when I found it in my youngest brothers room cleaning up one day for my mom I threw it out lol he was still a lil too young to have something like that like 2 years away BUT if it was my child I would ignore they type of porn it was because either way if they are gay or strait I would love them anyway but defiintaly would be having the safe sex talk(s) at that point IF we hadn't already!! I ofcoruce would tell my DH about it but he is on the same page as me its one of the things I asked before we got serious didn't want a man that would dis own his kid(s) if they where gay or bisexual. To me it dont matter they are my kids and I will love them no matter what!!

If I found any kind of porn, we would be having a refresher course on 'the talk' and then make sure they understand the lines of communication are always open!

Just a general sex talk. I wouldnt bring it up being gay porn etc....

I mean its normal really to be curious, and they say most teens first sexual experiece is with someone of the same sex, gay or not. Its usually more females over males, its about 90% of teen girls vs I think it was 70% of teen boys. lol

But just a general talk about safety and std's and so on. If I had a spouse i wouldnt bring it up at all. lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting newmommie12:</b>" I would probley ignore the fact that I found it, its normal for teenager to have such things I didnt ... [snip!] ... dis own his kid(s) if they where gay or bisexual. To me it dont matter they are my kids and I will love them no matter what!!"</blockquote>



By talking about his sex preference doesnt mean you are going to disown him. Is just better to know. Kwim

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Hm. What do you mean outing? Like... your spouse may know your child was gay before they were ready ... [snip!] ... hope we have the relationship where we talk about our kids and not hide things, even if they turn out to be nothing. Yaknow?  "</blockquote>




It might not matter to YOU but it might matter to your child.

I would give the same talk for gay or str8 porn...discuss safe sex, offer condoms, BC whatever and leave it at that.