Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Eh, I think I would talk to them about safe ... [snip!] ... I mention gay because talking to a spouse would have the potential of "outing" your child before he or she was ready."
Hm. What do you mean outing? Like... your spouse may know your child was gay before they were ready to tell them?
I mean... IMO... being gay OR straight is nothing that needs to be "revealed" in some crazy way.... though I know maybe a teen would feel that way.
I know for a fact my fiance would not share that information with anyone else before my child was ready, or push him or her to talk about it before he/she was ready... his best friend is gay, and had a hell of a time coming out to him. He knows that it may be difficult to come out, but just accepting that person and not pushing the issue is the best way to deal with it.
I would share it with my spouse only because it's his child, too, and I would hope we have the relationship where we talk about our kids and not hide things, even if they turn out to be nothing. Yaknow?