re: If you found gay porn...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destinite:</b>" Not IMO. I think it should be an ongoing conversation."</blockquote>



I agree.

Lol. I wouldnt be surprised in the slightest to find gay porn in my daughter's room. I actually saw a bunch on her phone before. Meh. We've had the safe sex talk. I discourage her from doing anything before she's ready and to think about it, but she knows where the condoms are.

I would ignore it, just like i would straight porn.

Only time I'd address it is if it's disturbing stuff.

Wouldn't say a thing. Put it back where I found it and go about my day. I think porn and the desire to look at it is completely natural and see absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" In your teen's room, what would you do? Talk to them about it? Pretend you didn't see it? Tell your spouse? Assuming they are not "out"."

I wouldn't have a problem with it... I dont know if I'd say anything if they werent out. I think I'd be more apt to say something if they weren't out... just so they were completely sure that it IS okay and I have no issues. But they should know, I'm pretty damn outspoken about how pro GLBT I am. But just in case I might do the "Hey, I found this... there aren't any problems but if you need to talk, let me know!"

I may just let it be. I may have my lesbian sister say something. Not sure.

I am wondering if my daughter will grow up to be bi or lesbian... if she does then I told my ex that he can testify that we both knew from a young age and it just proves that you are born with your sexual identity.

After a second thought why would a teen look at gay porn a guy getting smurfed in the ass if he wasnt gay. Js not trying to be rude or anything. I still think I would still have a talk if I was in that situation who is the better person to clear their doubts than the parents. Kwim.

Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" After a second thought why would a teen look at gay porn a guy getting smurfed in the ass if he wasnt ... [snip!] ... I would still have a talk if I was in that situation who is the better person to clear their doubts than the parents. Kwim."

A female teen couldn't be looking at gay porn?

Plus, many people like to look at things, even if they don't necessarily want to practice them in real life.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:</b>" After a second thought why would a teen look at gay porn a guy getting smurfed in the ass if he wasnt ... [snip!] ... I would still have a talk if I was in that situation who is the better person to clear their doubts than the parents. Kwim."</blockquote>




Idk why a straight guy would but I know I watched gay and lesbian porn.

Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" After a second thought why would a teen look at gay porn a guy getting smurfed in the ass if he wasnt ... [snip!] ... I would still have a talk if I was in that situation who is the better person to clear their doubts than the parents. Kwim."

Because they're curious. My teen daughter looks at gay porn and pictures. It doesn't bother me. I think she's leaning towards being gay, but I know she's at least Bi.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" A female teen couldn't be looking at gay porn? Plus, many people like to look at things, even if they don't necessarily want to practice them in real life."</blockquote>




Is a strong possibility. Girls are more adventurous and I am sure guys would enjoy two females making out. But I dont think they would want to watch guy on guy. If they were straight. I dont know but that is just my opinion. Parents need to be more imvolve and not pretend they dont see anything. Kwim. They will think that their parents are stupid and that they can get away with anything. Just to know that they are cared about and that they have both parents guiding them and supporting them. I think that is really important to them. Is all
about how you approach them and conversate with them and also how open you are with your kids.

Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" A female teen couldn't be looking at gay porn? ... [snip!] ... and supportong them. I think that is really important to them. Is all about how you aproach them and conversate with them."

Why cant I pretend not to see anything? We've talked about sex, often. She herself has told me that she has fooled around with a girl. We are very open, and I know she will come to me if she needs anything. I dont need to butt in to every single detail. If she's curious, I'm not going to look over her shoulder and monitor every thing she's doing. I raised a good kid, and I trust her.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" Why cant I pretend not to see anything? We've talked about sex, often. She herself has told me that ... [snip!] ... curious, I'm not going to look over her shoulder and monitor every thing she's doing. I raised a good kid, and I trust her."</blockquote>




Thats different you are open with her and you know what she has been up to as well as her sex preference. Is not like you are putting a blind fold and dont know whats going on with your daughter. You are doing the right thing. I agree to not butt in every single time but just to know whats going on from time to time is more than enough.

Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" Why cant I pretend not to see anything? ... [snip!] ... right thing. I agree to not butt in every single time but just to know whats going on from time to time is more than enough."

Gotcha. And I guess it's kind of different since she'll be 18 in less than 3 months. After that, all I can do is hope I taught her well

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" A female teen couldn't be looking at gay porn? ... [snip!] ... important to them. Is all about how you approach them and conversate with them and also how open you are with your kids."</blockquote>




I think you are confusing something here, because in every reply I've given I agree that it's important to keep lines of communication open. And I think you have some pretty strong bias to think that a straight male would never get curious, and that you must immediately know if you child's sexual preference is not what you consider the norm.

Personally, I think it'd pretty normal for kids and teens to be curious about something, and reading too much into that and pushing them to tell you that they're gay or straight because they were looking at gay porn... Yeah. That just seems very odd to me. And I don't know why looking at gay porn, specifically, means they think their parents are stupid and they can get away with anything, but yeah.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~GAGA DRAMA~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" ... [snip!] ... why looking at gay porn, specifically, means they think their parents are stupid and they can get away with anything, but yeah."</blockquote>



I think you are misunderstanding something here but is okay you do what you think is best for your kids and ill do the same. Toodles. Lol