Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" It's a stigma for a lot of people though. I would think reassuring your child that it doesn't matter ... [snip!] ... important in a world where there are still so many people telling them they're horrible. No matter if they're gay or straight."
Yes, but I don't think it's strictly has to be related to sexuality. Being open about accepting your child with all their flaws and their personality through their life is more important than a conversation based on finding gay porn, KWIM? Should I be telling her I love her no matter what, even if she chooses to wear dresses? That's who she is. I love her, and I tell her I love her.
I agree that it's important to let them know you love them no matter what. But that isn't, for me, strictly relating to whom they love. It can be what they choose to do as a career, what they like to do as a hobby, their personality whether they're outgoing or shy, everything.
I also think it's greatly related to where you live, and the type of people that you are friends with, that your child knows. There are a lot of people that are and will be in my child's life that are very different from each other-- whether that's relating to sexual orientation or not. I don't know why my child would think that I would think being gay is wrong or something to hide, but if they did-- that's why conversations and communication are important. I agree that it is, don't get me wrong.
I just do not need to have a specific converasation about sexual orientation when it's triggered by specifically finding something that may (or may not) mean my child is gay. I hope to have plenty of conversations about accepting my child no matter what throughout their life.
Whether he or she wants to play football, play chess all day, play in the mud, dress in strange clothes, want to do something that I, personally, don't have an interest in... that's fine.
Hell. I was a tomboy, my daughter is a freakishly girly child. It's no more right of me to push her to be a tomboy or not want her to wear dresses because it's the "norm" than it is for me to push her to be girly if she was a tomboy. KWIM?