Just venting / Need a little bit of support .

At this point along in my pregnancy I am torn between having an abortion and continuing with having the baby , in a previous post I explained how I may have been leaning toward having an abortion because I feel like I am being pressured into having an abortion . Every time I talk about or think about having an abortion with my child's father mother I get really emotional and I start crying . Him and his mom make it seem like it is the worst thing in the world only because were both in school and she claims she WILL NOT allow him to leave school to be with the baby . At 15 weeks and 3 days I feel very attached to my baby , every time I think about how blessed I am to even be carrying this baby I feel joy within ME . Going through with an abortion will leave a emotional and psychological scar with me I am pretty sure of . Tomorrow 3 / 6 / 2013 I am going to the doctor for a routine check up & to hopefully find out what I am having .. maybe to soon though . I thought about adoption , to be able to bless another family with my blessing , I know that adoptions are never easy , but in a way it would kind of put my heart and mind at ease to know that I am not taking away something so precious that God has blessed me with . How do you all feel about adoption ? Any feedback from anyone who has gone through with adoption ? Or know anyone who has dealt with the process in the past ?

I'm just a second year college student with intentions of graduating in two more years and I'm tired of feeling so stressed out about this , I know that the final decision is mine , but why does it feel like the decision is impossible to make , an abortion isn't my first option , but my very very very LAST resort ,..

Sometimes I wish that his mom and him would understand that the process of having an abortion isn't an easy one , I know he doesn't want the responsibility and his mom only wants whats best for US so she claims , but I feel like the baby won't even have a chance , the baby didn't ask to be conceived and now I have to make the decision to bring it into this world or not to .

I would think with you being this far along and you saying your so attached and dont know about an abortion IMO I dont think you should do it. It should be something you know in your heart its for the best and not something you feel pressured into. Either way best of luck to you!

You're 16 weeks, it's kind of a little late to be talking abortion. You don't want one, don't get one. It's as simple as that.

And your boyfriends mother is right. Neither of you need to be quitting school because you have a baby. You both need to finish school if you want to provide a life for your child.

But almost being 16 weeks, I think you might be a little late for the abortion talk.

In pretty sure u can't have an abortion at this point u have to be in the 3 month window, I think 13 weeks is the latest u can have one legally. I could be wrong but that's what I've heard.

So I would ask ur doctor when u go in. If you really don't think you'll have the support of the father or anyone else I'd probably consider adoption. But if you think they may come around or u have family u could live with to help then keeping it would be an option.

Your I. A tough place nobody can tell u what to do, you'll have to make this choice, for the baby's life, don't make the choice for yourself, think very hard if u will be able to give that child the life u want him or we to have. It's tough but it's what's best for the baby.


I wish you the best!

School can be done with kids. It's hard but it can be done. I left my ex husband with a 6 month old 4 weeks pregnant because of him not wanting the baby and Ihad just started backto school. It took me a year longer but I got done and I'm fine. I even got remarried and graduated 4 weeks before my third baby was born. Good Luck  

Forget about what everyone else wants. What do you want in your heart? It takes two to make a baby, and it's sad that he is hiding behind his mom and not taking responsibility and supporting what you want to do.

Do you want to keep the baby? You can do anything you want if it's what think is best. Adoption is a wonderful thing too, and open adoptions would probably be easiest. Abortion would be difficult, but it is your choice. This will probably be one of the hardest decisions you'll have to make, and you should search your heart for what you want. Good luck to you.

I was in a situation similar to this about 2 yearss ago. I found out that i was 2 months pregnnant at the age of 17 and i decided that i wanted to keep my baby and so did my boyyfriend of 5 years at the time. His family was supportive of anything we wanted to do but it was my mother whos reaction was way different then i would have expected. When she found out she basically forced me to get an abortion after seeing that thats not what i wanted. I cried for days and i felt so hurt because it was MY mother who was takingg my child away from me evven tho she experienced the same when she was younger. I know that most people would say she is just looking out for me but i wwoulde went thru evvery trial and tribulation i wouldve hadd to go thrru with no ccomplaints. She thought that she would be the one raising my child so she threatened to send me to delaware with my father if i deccided to keep my baby. That really wouldve been impossible bc i wouldnt be able to leavve my boyfriend and have to be by myself in delaware. So i did it. And still to this day i regret it. I still fill the pain and the emptiness and i even think about my angel baby every single day. Now i am 19 years old i am 1 month pregnant and i couldnt be happier. I guess what im trying to say is dont do it unless you want to do it. Dont to it to please others like i did bc now im sitting here with the regret. Me and mmy boyfriend feels the pain of giving up boo what we called our child (no. Matter how small he/she was) and i wouldnt want you to feel the same way

You can get an abortion up to 20 weeks. If you are being pressured into adoption or abortion, I would not go through with it. I have done adoption, and abortion. I will do abortion before I do another adoption.

You are 19, you are in college. You are the same age I was when I had my oldest, that Im raising. It is your choice, not theirs. Smurf them. If you want to keep the baby, then do it. You do not need them. It will be hard with a baby and going to school but it can be done.

You sound like your really not ok with having an abortion. Plus ur a lil far along for that. It will leave you psycologically smurfed up like me. I'm also a second year college student with a 5yo and a 8mo, and it is hard but there is no chance I'm gonna give up. They are my motivation. So if you feel in your heart you love your baby, do what you feel is right, but don't give up on school!! You want to prove them all wrong by giving your baby a good life!!! Good luck!!

Ignore everyone who is pressuring you and think about what you truly want. If you feel that it's the best decision for YOU, then you should terminate. You sound very hesitant, though. If you make this decision for other people, it is likely you will regret it. As for adoption, it may or may not be the right option for you. I'm sure it's unimagineably difficult, but it is the right decision for some people. I've never personally gone though it, though. Parenting while in school is difficult, but not impossible. There are resources that can help you. I'm sory that you're goin through this. Best of luck with whatever you decide!

Ignore his mother, ignore anyone who is telling you what to do (whether that be abortion, adoption, parenting). Do what YOU want to do, what you feel in your head, and in your heart is right.
Abortion can be a good choice but it is not for everyone and if you are considering it only because of other people's wants you will most likely regret it and have a very difficult time dealing with it. I had an abortion farther along than you are now and let me tell you.. Almost 5 years later I still think about that decision. It was the right one for me but it was MY decision. Had I have been pressured into it I can't imagine where I would be or what I would feel now.
As for adoption.. like abortion it can be a good choice but it is not for everyone and it takes someone really strong to carry a child for 9 months, bond with it, birth it and then hand it away.

I don't want to try and sway you either way.. I'm about as pro choice as they come BUT I will say this. If you are already feeling attached, if you're interested and even a little excited to find out the sex then I would keep it. You can do it, whether your boyfriend is there, whether his mother is supportive. You can.

Thank you so much !!