what do you do when your SO/DH does something wrong?

I don't mean get in trouble wrong, I just mean WRONG. They literally do something the wrong way, or just don't do it well enough.

For instance, your SO does the dishwasher. WONDERFUL! FINALLY! So, you open the cabinets and there are things that you've never seen before in there. Fine, not a big deal, I just rearrange them. What's the point of saying something because he probably honestly had no idea where they went. You finish rearranging and turn around and BAM, you're eye level with spaghetti sauce splattered all over though cabinets. Like...what?! Really?

Of course those are petty things, but it's just so irritating that every single smurfing thing he does is half assed, but it's him trying to do something good so I can never correct him. How do you sweep the bathroom floor, but not move the door and sweep behind it? Why do you vaccuum a room without dusting first? Why do you make the bed, or better yet, get IN THE BED and pull the covers on and not notice that the whole thing is sideways and your feet are sticking out?

Obviously I'm just venting because at least he's trying to help out, but I don't understand even bothering to do something if you're not going to do it the whole way. Do you guys tell your guy when they aren't doing it right? I guess you could call it nagging or something.

He gets a spanking

I will tell him sometimes but I don't make a huge deal about it. He is very good about cleaning I just have a certain way I like things done. I come to terms that everyone has their own way.

I just redo it. Nbd

I just don't let my DH do certain stuff. I have learned over the last 7 1/2 years that if I want something done right then I do it myself lol.

Eh we talk about it. I try to appreciate what he does but like the dishwasher he will overstuff it and nothing gets clean. I just ask him next time to not stuff it so full because the dishes dont get clean. The sweeping "Hey honey I really appreciate you sweeping next time can you double check behind the door."

Heck no I don't complain! That would be a quick way for my husband to never try again.

Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" He gets a spanking"

Lol

Don't sweat the small stuff and choose your battles.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:</b>" He gets a spanking"</blockquote>




Hahahaha. I got spanked today for hiding the remote.  

I just correct it. But I have bad OCD so nothing he does will ever be the way I want it to be.

First, I would stop acting like his mom.

I'd joke about it and be like "babe, I love you, but let me show you where these go."

or "come on babe, ya didn't move the door? do you mind getting this for me, it's going to drive me cray."

So you're not demeaning him, he doesn't think you have an attitude, and it doesn't start an argument.

Why don't you two do things together? That way you're both working as a team towards getting it done and it's done to your satisfaction, and no one feels like they're under-appreciated.

I avoid it completely by doing everything lol
No cooking, laundry, cleaning is done by SO.
Not that he's interested because he's not, but its frowned upon in our house because Im very particular about things.
Im kind of a.control freak..
He occasionally tries to help by doing laundry and I even hang the laundry a certain way with certain colors of hangers (I told you) & he does it a different way but I never say anything.
Its me, not him. He tries to help but Id rather do it.

Quoting grace life:" Heck no I don't complain! That would be a quick way for my husband to never try again. "

this!

Quoting Red Bottom:" First, I would stop acting like his mom. I'd joke about it and be like "babe, I love you, but let me ... [snip!] ... working as a team towards getting it done and it's done to your satisfaction, and no one feels like they're under-appreciated. "

I usually end up saying nothing to him or it's very passive aggresively if I do. I've posted before how our relationship isn't the best, so we don't do much together. I don't want him to feel like I don't appreciate him trying though, so that's why I don't say anything.