re: what do you do when your SO/DH does something wrong?

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Heck no I don't complain! That would be a quick way for my husband to never try again. "</blockquote>




  Yep!

LOL...

He literally just broke the microwave plate.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I usually end up saying nothing to him or it's very passive aggresively if I do. I've posted before ... [snip!] ... don't do much together. I don't want him to feel like I don't appreciate him trying though, so that's why I don't say anything."

But that's building up animosity towards him, which I'm sure comes out in different situations. And passive aggressive comments aren't good for anyone. If your relationship is smurffy and you don't do much together, and you get upset about this stuff, why are you with him?

Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:" He gets a spanking"

 

If you want things done a certain way, it's better just to do it yourself!

Just let him know he's appreciated.

I let it go. I'm happy he's trying at all and if I complain or tell him he did it "wrong" he won't do anything to help anymore. He ALWAYS folds the towels wrong but as long as they're put away, I don't worry about it. When the linen closet gets to the point where I can't stand it anymore, I just refold everything. Its not a big deal to me.

I AM teaching the kids (age 7 and 4) how to fold/put away things properly

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" LOL... He literally just broke the microwave plate."

On accident, I assume?

Quoting clay matthews:" I let it go. I'm happy he's trying at all and if I complain or tell him he did it "wrong" he won't do ... [snip!] ... I just refold everything. Its not a big deal to me. I AM teaching the kids (age 7 and 4) how to fold/put away things properly"

He will fold smurf semi-right, but then it sits in the laundry basket until I get sick of waiting for it. Again...half-assed job.

Quoting Red Bottom:" But that's building up animosity towards him, which I'm sure comes out in different situations. And ... [snip!] ... If your relationship is smurffy and you don't do much together, and you get upset about this stuff, why are you with him?"

Of course. I don't think I've ever seen you in a thread where you didn't speak the truth, although sometimes what we know is true and right isn't always the best option. Tis my situation.


and yes, it was an accident. I don't even know what happened, we heard a pop and he opened the microwave to the rotating microwave dish split in half.

If you want something done a specific way, do it yourself.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" He will fold smurf semi-right, but then it sits in the laundry basket until I get sick of waiting for it. Again...half-assed job."</blockquote>



He folded it, you put it away. I will do laundry all day long but i despise putting it away. Team work makes the dream work. Damn, I woul hate living with you. You sound like a big ball of irritation.

Let me tell you something... it SUCKS to be treated like a child by your spouse. My s/o is incredibly neat and picky, and after I do the dishes, he can't help but inspect them, and if he finds they aren't clean enough he will say something like "Don't even bother next time if you can't do it right."

Whatever you do, do not be like that and insinuate he is incompetent or has done something wrong. It drives me nuts. If you don't like the way he has done it, do it yourself. Be thankful he even tries, I know too may women whose husband's expect their wives to be their maid.

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" If you want something done a specific way, do it yourself.  "

lol what am I going to do? Appear behind him in a shady way so when he turns around I'm standing there with crazy eyes and tell him to stop what he's doing. That seems like a better option than venting in such a way that he doesn't know and still feels appreciated. It's just annoying. Why should I be the only one to finish a job or pick up a pillow that he just stepped over?

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Of course. I don't think I've ever seen you in a thread where you didn't speak the truth, although ... [snip!] ... I don't even know what happened, we heard a pop and he opened the microwave to the rotating microwave dish split in half."

Why isn't leaving him the best option? Don't you deserve to be happy?

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" He will fold smurf semi-right, but ... [snip!] ... putting it away. Team work makes the dream work. Damn, I woul hate living with you. You sound like a big ball of irritation."

Yes, because it's too much for him to do one load of laundry all the way through while I do the other 8? It's too much for him to finish a job all the way through? I don't think so. Me doing everything is not team work. Me doing everything because he doesn't want to be thorough is not team work. It don't stand there and bark orders at him and pick him apart for everything he does. I suck it up and be gracious that he tried, followed by me picking up the slack afterwards and coming here to say it instead of to him.

Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" Yes, because it's too much for him to do one load of laundry all the way through while I do the other ... [snip!] ... up and be gracious that he tried, followed by me picking up the slack afterwards and coming here to say it instead of to him."

Do you both work?