When does it stop hurting?

It's been almost two years since my ex and I broke up. I've dated since then but it's not the same. I miss hearing him laugh, seeing his smile. The way his brown eyes turned gold when it was sunny out. How passionate he was about his career, the family members he did have, his friends. I know he wasn't a good boyfriend. At times, he treated me terribly. But there were so many other things I loved, love about him, that I can't stay mad at him. I know if he called me tomorrow and told me it was a mistake and he's changed and he wanted me back, I would go back and not think twice.

He is the only guy I've ever been in love with. Is it possible to be in love with someone but get over them 100%? I don't want to always feel this way. I miss being hugged and kissed and held and waking up next to him. I want to experience that with someone else someday but I'm scared I never will again :-(

Gonna be honest, it can take years to get over someone. I was with a guy from 16-20. I lost my virginity to him, too. It took me a long time to get over him. You have to remember that for whatever reason it didn't work out is still going to be there. You will meet someone even better than your ex someday   I'm married to my best friend and I couldn't imagine life being any different.
It does get better <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting *A&N's Mama*:</b>" Gonna be honest, it can take years to get over someone. I was with a guy from 16-20. I lost my virginity ... [snip!] ... than your ex someday   I'm married to my best friend and I couldn't imagine life being any different. It does get better <3"</blockquote>


I hope so. We were together for two years, and since my son didnt and doesn't really know his dad- he was very close with him. And I know he really loved my LO so that hurt even more. LO doesn't ask about him anymore, but he did for about a year.  

I broke up with a guy years ago and it hurt like hell.
for a good 2+ years I still said I loved him. I told new boyfriends that I was sorry but I still loved my ex and everything.
then I met my boyfriend now and I was talking about my ex and went to say of course I still love him but couldn't say it! it was the first time I actually realised that I didnt want to say "I still love him" and that I knew I didnt anymore.

when you find the right person the feelings will go away.
The more you tell yourself you miss him and wont find someone it will get harder but i promise it will get easier at some point.

Quoting A&J. ♥:" It's been almost two years since my ex and I broke up. I've dated since then but it's not the same. I ... [snip!] ... and held and waking up next to him. I want to experience that with someone else someday but I'm scared I never will again :-("

I promise hun it will go away. Have you ever thought maybe its not him that your in love with but you want to have that connection with someone again. I always thought I wanted my ex back, but like you said in your relationship he treated me terribly. What I really wanted was that feeling of the jitters of that new found love, having that new romance with all the cuddling and kissing and going gaga over each other. Sometimes we think we miss the person but really its the honeymoon stage we miss.

I dated a guy off and on from the time I was fifteen until a few weeks before my eighteenth birthday that I knew I was in love with. We did lose touch a couple of times and somehow, I always knew people who would guide us back together. We ended up officially ending everything when he was too ashamed to admit that he had gotten another girl pregnant and I brought it to his attention that I knew. To be honest, it took me almost three years to get over. Basically because I wanted the connection he and I had had. As much as I loved him, I never forgave him for why he gave up. I've kept in touch with the family, his dad was my masseuse for a while. Yeah, I still think about him every now and again, but I know we're both happier now.
I don't think it always just stops hurting. Sometimes it is just coping, dealing with it, and moving on for yourself.