Punishment

1) What form of punishment do you use? Spanking, time outs, taking things away or depends on situation?
2) Do you punish your child in public or wait till you get home?

NO judgment on parents who spank please and thank you.

Sunday, we went to the the batting cages, DS was allowed $6 dollars for whatever he wanted games or to use to hit in the cage. Well, he started acting up and demanded money from me so I made him put his batting things away and sit. Well, while putting his things away he was crying loudly, now I understand parents naturally look to make sure it's not their kid crying and to make sure a child isn't hurt, which is fine. But this one mother just kept staring at my son while he was crying (keep in mind I didn't spank nor slap him-just made him stop playing and put his things away). So, annoyed by this mother's staring I asked her "if she had ever seen a child cry because apparently the way she was fixated on my son crying while sitting was amazing to see". The mother didn't reply and looked away after maybe 10 minutes of focusing on my son. Then, talks loudly to her friend about me asking her if she had a problem watching a kid cry again I turn to her and ask "if there was a problem I would be happy to address it but didn't appreciate her staring at my 6 yr old crying over how I punished him and mentioned that my child wasn't hurt nor need in medical assistance and that I would appreciate her taking her problems up with me on how I disciplined my own child."

Was I wrong? I mean I was okay with the first couple of looks like I said most parents hear a child cry and check/look to see if that child is their's or okay but to sit and stare (when we teach our kids not to stare at other kids and its rude to stare at other) is uncalled for plus I had raging hormones.

Your opinions please

My son has autism - I'm no stranger to the glares from other parents. I simply say, with a smile "He's fine, thanks for your concern". If they keep staring I say "He has autism, and you staring is not helping. Thank you for your concern, but if you could stop staring now that would be awesome."

Then again, I wouldn't leave him to cry and scream for 10 min in front of everyone either. I think I would be staring if a kid was crying on for that long too.

I guess i dont see why you felt the need to be rude and call her out.

This is why people say our generation sucks.

I don't care if ppl state. I will put my kids in the corner in Walmart. One requirement for punishment to be done effectively is that it has to be immediate. If I tell them wait until we get home that doesn't work.

I don't think confrontation was in order. Only because that's how things escalate and beings you had your child there and you're pregnant, it wasn't the best thing to do. Also, he's 6 and was essentially throwing a fit. He should have been removed from the place all together. That is unacceptable, IMO and it was likely why the lady was staring.

My Son is 4 and we do time out and I never discipline in public. That is humiliating and degrading to the child. He is removed from the situation and then addressed in private. I do not need to give the general public gratification on disciplining my child because he's being an smurf.

Quoting one of each 4 me:" I don't care if ppl state. I will put my kids in the corner in Walmart. One requirement for punishment ... [snip!] ... for punishment to be done effectively is that it has to be immediate. If I tell them wait until we get home that doesn't work."

It works wonders for my child. If you are serious and follow through with what you say there is no reason why it would not work.

Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" My son has autism - I'm no stranger to the glares from other parents. I simply say, with a smile "He's ... [snip!] ... to cry and scream for 10 min in front of everyone either. I think I would be staring if a kid was crying on for that long too."

After 5 mins it was more of a whimper not a cry. He wasn't being that loud either. She just kept watching him like a hawk I mean geez.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" I don't think confrontation was in order. Only because that's how things escalate and beings you had ... [snip!] ... in private. I do not need to give the general public gratification on disciplining my child because he's being an smurf."</blockquote>




Yep. Totally exactly 1000000% this

Dd is not old enough for things like this yet. I did have custody of my nephew for a few years and I can share about my experiences with him. I do not spank. I do not make my child cry from being disciplined in public. If he needed to be removed from the situation while acting up I removed him so as not to disturb others. Personally I probably would have bad mouthed you to your face if you zeroed in on me like that. I look at whatever I want to and you don't get to tell me not to. Just as I'm not telling you how to discipline your kid. But go off on me in public like that and I'll have choice words for you. If I feel you are doing something to your kid that is negatively affecting my kid or putting my child in danger I will scream at you. If you verbally abuse your child in public I will get in your face. Otherwise I don't really care what you do with your kid. How do you know that lady wasn't looking at something else?

I punish in public, by removing her from the building and putting her in timeout. I would probably be staring too if some kid was screaming for 10 minutes straight, it's hard not to look lol

Quoting Rd.:" I punish in public, by removing her from the building and putting her in timeout. I would probably be staring too if some kid was screaming for 10 minutes straight, it's hard not to look lol"

Esp a big ass 6 year old  

Quoting Just Ames:" Esp a big ass 6 year old  "

Lol ya, I wouldn't be staring at the kid really I'd be wondering why the hell some parent is letting her six year old behave like that in public.

Kids act up OP at any age, but it's not fair to make everyone else listen to it then mouth off when they're staring...

I explain everything to him, occasionally we use time outs, but my son is VERY sensitive.. Seems like us getting upset is enough to upset him.
I've smacked his hand when he was younger, but NEVER spanked.
So yes, we use our form of "punishment" in public.

I think your frustration crying was taken out on the woman.. People stare, get over it.

My DD is 2 years old and can throw some crazy temper tantrums over silly things. Last week she threw a temper tantrum at the Doctors office because she had to give the receptionist the check out form (it fell on the floor and she picked it up for me being helpful). She just threw herself down and started crying, we just quickly checked out and got out of there. Once in the car I addressed the situation but there are times that I cant leave quickly so I move her to an area with the least amount of people and focus on my child and her issues and not the people around me. If they stare, they stare! They are not my concern. I am not hitting or yelling at her. I am not against spanking but I personally dont do it.

If you don't want me to stare, shut your kid up or remove them. Every parent has been there, but I likely would have been a little bit less polite if you has spoke to me like that.. Sounds like you were more worried about the stranger than your child's tantrum.