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Why is he like that? I couldn't be with someone who was like that. DH and I almost broke up because of my FIL but we eventually worked smurf out.

Why is he like that towards them? SO doesn't like my family but he's at least civil & behaves himself

DH isn't that obvious about it..he appreciates the help my family has given us but he can't stand them for the fact that they make him feel like smurf and make me feel like smurf...my family obviously doesn't like him and they really don't have a reason to judge him the way they do so he's pretty much like that because it's a mutual feeling..

Does he have a reason for acting that way? DH doesn't like the majority of my family but neither do I, so it's not really a problem for me.

It took a while for SO to warm up to my family. His family dynamic was/is a lot different than my family. We are big on birthdays and parties and celebrations, but things like that haven't been so important with his family. It was hard to for him to feel comfortable around them to stay the night at my parents house at christmas time and such but he's coming around. I think he realizes how important my family is to me and he can just grin and bear it for whenever we do go see them. I don't make it an every weekend kind of thing, and I like to give him time afterwards so he can just kinda unload from it.

I'd talk to him and see what it is that bothers him? My parents are very similar to what you described as well as how SO was in the beginning. They did so much for us and offered so much to him I just couldn't understand WHY in the world he didn't just love it. His biggest issue is he just felt out of his comfort zone. He's a home body and not having his own bathroom to smurf in or whatever, just made it weird for him.

He's told me before that my mom is weird and annoying (she's a bit different, because she got really sick and got put on all kinds of meds that messed her up, but she's still normal.)

And I don't know what his issue is with my dad, they used to get along fine, now he doesn't like him. He thinks my brother is a douche (his words) - but again, don't know why. Might be a jealously thing, not sure. And he thinks my sister is weird and annoying too...

At this point I'd rather just go alone to family dinners and stuff, because bringing him is embarrassing almost. Last time he was over there (New Years Eve) he sat on the floor, not even the couch, drank a beer, and texted a coworker the whole time (who is a girl). Then he left after 30 min to go over to her house and drink with her husband and some guys that were over there.

But I feel like he should come to family stuff. I go to every single dinner/party/whatever that his family does. And they do stuff all the time!

I've just had a horrible day and it's just really upsetting me tonight, because I know I need to tell him about this weekend so he doesn't make other plans...

Is there a reason why he acts like that?

My FIL and I don't get along, I brought up divorce to my husband numerous times in the past because of it. We're finally in a good place now, DH and I.

My husband doesn't care much for my family either, but I see where he is coming from because the same things annoy me. But, he's never rude to them.

Quoting ♥Daenerys:" He's told me before that my mom is weird and annoying (she's a bit different, because she got really ... [snip!] ... a horrible day and it's just really upsetting me tonight, because I know I need to tell him so he doesn't make other plans..."

that's a piss poor excuse to not like people...

Quoting ♥Daenerys:" He's told me before that my mom is weird and annoying (she's a bit different, because she got really ... [snip!] ... it's just really upsetting me tonight, because I know I need to tell him about this weekend so he doesn't make other plans..."

Sorry, I know he's your husband, but if that's all he's got he sounds like a whiny bitch. Honestly, I think if I was close to my family and he didn't like any of them and couldn't even be bothered to hide it, that might be a dealbreaker in my relationship.

Quoting Mom2William&Michael:" Sorry, I know he's your husband, but if that's all he's got he sounds like a whiny bitch. Honestly, ... [snip!] ... family and he didn't like any of them and couldn't even be bothered to hide it, that might be a dealbreaker in my relationship."

It just sucks because we used to do things with them all the time. Then at some point it just changed, and now it's just... horrible. There are people in his family I really do not care for, but I put on a smile, and I'm nice when I'm around them, because at the end of the day it's still family.

And the last time I 'made' him go to my parents house, was over two months ago. In that span of time, we've had numerous dinners and birthday parties with both sides of his family.  

Quoting ♥Daenerys:" It just sucks because we used to do things with them all the time. Then at some point it just changed, ... [snip!] ... over two months ago. In that span of time, we've had numerous dinners and birthday parties with both sides of his family.  "

Then I would quit going to his family smurf. It may seem somewhat childish but why should you have to suffer through things when he won't do the same to you? I'd ask him what changed, and if it isn't anything, then tell him he needs to suck it up and deal with it. Let him know you aren't too fond of certain people in his family either but you deal and he should too.

My husband doesn't like how some of my family treats me but no he doesn't just our right dislike them.

I think you're husband is a tool that needs to grow up. Seriously if you're so immature that you can't like the family who RAISED your wife you've got issues. He needs to realize that they are the people who created you and helped you become the person you are so they must not be too horrible.