re: Bridesmaid sleeping with your ex at the bach party...

<blockquote><b>Quoting RissaBbyGurl:</b>" So my bacherollette party was a few days ago. Which normally consists of only girls, yet my lovely maid ... [snip!] ... being so happy with his little family and his beautiful wife too and obviously he has no idea and I feel terrible....   blah"</blockquote>




I think you are far too focused on the fact he is your "ex". That is just my opinion.

Talk to her about the situation. Don't let her mistake in HER personal life be your business or an issue in your friendship. If you were a real friend, you would be there to talk her thru the issue and help her work it out how she needs. Let go of the fact it was your EX and remember her marriage is none of your business. Just be a real friend and help be her conscience. As for the others, idk, I really wouldn't care that much about the situation but that is just me. I don't get worked up over small smurf.

Kick her ass out!

I never understood why women get upset when a friend hooks up or dates their ex. They are exes for a reason why get all mad and/or jealous? However, if you are really that upset and angry to the point where you feel you can't continue with your friendship then kick her out of the wedding. If you can suck it up, forgive her, and go on with your friendship then keep her in.

Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" I never understood why women get upset when a friend hooks up or dates their ex. They are exes for a ... [snip!] ... then kick her out of the wedding. If you can suck it up, forgive her, and go on with your friendship then keep her in."

I wouldn't be upset if any of my friends dated my exes. But.....I never truly loved any of them. With my DH now, if my best friend hooked up with him...It would bother me. Not because of jealousy. But...because I would feel disrespected by her to sleep with someone who is the father of my child and someone I loved and spent years with.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I wouldn't be upset if any of my friends dated my exes. But.....I never truly loved any of them. With ... [snip!] ... I would feel disrespected by her to sleep with someone who is the father of my child and someone I loved and spent years with."

Yeah thats basically how i feel disrespected

<blockquote><b>Quoting RissaBbyGurl:</b>" Yes, she did it was few days ago at my bacherolette party. This was a guy that I had a miscarriage ... [snip!] ... assure me nothing was going on and lying to me and crap even when i didn't expect annnything. And then was two faced after  "</blockquote>




Why are you so focused on the guy!??? Seriously! You are getting married to another guy in a few days!!!! Let it go!!!!

Late to the thread but time zones and all that...I would speak to her, explain how you feel and why. Find out what happened for sure. If she did cheat- I would advise her to be honest with her DH and not bring a third party into it... because even if she is having problems in her marriage and hasn't cheated, she clearly needs some help. She is still your friend and you ex is an ex for a reason, she might need your support.

Even if he is your ex the big thing that would tick me off is she took what was supposed to be your time and turned it in to a big ordeal. Ruining a marriage while one is supposed to be starting isn't cool. Just my opinion. Some people are just selfish.