need some kind of advice...

please don't judge, i kind of feel bad already. DD's pedi has gone on about her weight, saying failure to thrive (borderline) since about 2 months. her last 2 check-ups (6 and 9 months), he hasn't really said anything. I just can't stop obsessing over it now. i feel like she's too small. picking her up sometimes i feel unnerved... i find myself getting a little jealous of all these ppl with chubby babies (as usually that's what i see) my mind thinks they're normal and DD is...odd? i know some babies are just small and i've heard all the reassurances like that. i completely believe that there is nothing wrong with DD but part of me doesn't believe it... idk how to explain it. i hope this makes sense...

Is she gaining steadily? Remember that once they start moving around, their weight gain can decrease dramatically. If she seems healthy, happy, and on track don't worry so much.

There's not necessarily anything wrong with her... some babies just don't gain weight like others do. My youngest niece is like that. I'm sure she is just fine. As long as she's not super under weight, there shouldn't be any problem.

she is very active but eats almost constantly. she doesn't gain near as fast as any other baby i know... i can feel her ribs when i pick her up but other than that she looks relatively healthy. that's why i can't understand why i can't let it go...

Quoting Draco'sStalker:" she is very active but eats almost constantly. she doesn't gain near as fast as any other baby i know... ... [snip!] ... when i pick her up but other than that she looks relatively healthy. that's why i can't understand why i can't let it go..."

That's how my brother-in-law's little girl is.

If she isn't losing weight, and she isn't severly underweight for her age I wouldn't stress and obsess. As a mother you always wonder, is my child okay? Am I doing things right? Is there something I could be doing better, more? etc but honestly, if she is getting proper nutrition and like I said isn't severly underweight or losing and your doctor isn't concerned then she's probably okay.  

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" If she isn't losing weight, and she isn't severly underweight for her age I wouldn't stress and obsess. ... [snip!] ... nutrition and like I said isn't severly underweight or losing and your doctor isn't concerned then she's probably okay.  "

see, that's just the problem. i know all that, and tell myself that constantly. but my mind just won't let it go...

Quoting Draco'sStalker:" she is very active but eats almost constantly. she doesn't gain near as fast as any other baby i know... ... [snip!] ... when i pick her up but other than that she looks relatively healthy. that's why i can't understand why i can't let it go..."

i'm not sure why you feel bad about caring about your daughter?
i think it's totally logical for us to compare our babies to others, and then to want to understand what reasons there are for any differences.
have you asked your pedi if he thinks there is an explanation?

My DD is very skinny. Her first pediatrician kept saying she was way to skinny and I was not feeding her enough. I changed pediatricians to a more established and experienced pediatrician and she is perfectly fine with her weight. WIC complains about it because she is so skinny but the kid eats nonstop and is 28inches long and weighs 17lbs now. She is 7 months old. Some babies are just skinny don't let anyone tell you that your baby isn't healthy because she isn't fat.

Quoting regina_margot:" i'm not sure why you feel bad about caring about your daughter? i think it's totally logical for us ... [snip!] ... want to understand what reasons there are for any differences. have you asked your pedi if he thinks there is an explanation?"

i feel bad for being obsessed over her weight when she's totally healthy, and for thinking there is something wrong with her when there isn't. he hasn't found an explanation yet.

Quoting Jeeper:" My DD is very skinny. Her first pediatrician kept saying she was way to skinny and I was not feeding ... [snip!] ... She is 7 months old. Some babies are just skinny don't let anyone tell you that your baby isn't healthy because she isn't fat. "

see, my cousin's little boy saw the same pedi and he had gained 2lbs in 2 wks and the pedi said it wasn't enough. she switched pedis and the new one said he's perfectly fine. the problem is finding a pedi with an opening.

Quoting Draco'sStalker:" see, my cousin's little boy saw the same pedi and he had gained 2lbs in 2 wks and the pedi said it wasn't ... [snip!] ... it wasn't enough. she switched pedis and the new one said he's perfectly fine. the problem is finding a pedi with an opening."

You need to change. That pediatrician sounds awful. I am so glad I found the one I did. She is my childhood pediatrician and I love her. She even came in on Sunday just to give my daughter an antibiotic shot. I drive 45 minutes to see her too because I don't trust anyone else to provide my baby with her care. You need to look. I find that smaller practices tend to have better doctors don't go with a big chain one.

Well I can relate. Our Eva isn't underweight, but has been in the lower 25% since day one. She's going on 5 months and only in the mid 13lb lb range. The pedi is bugging us to wake her up twice in the middle of the night to feed her more. I HATE IT! I gut is telling me that she is just a small girl. My husband and I are small people. She is healthy, happy, alert, and hitting all her milestones. Walking into her nursery at 1am and struggling to wake her up to feed her when she isn't even hungry doesn't feel right. So we stopped that after three night. The pedi makes us feel so bad every time we go in for weigh ins for not waking her. Even through we are following our gut that she is okay....there is that guilty mommy feeling that "what if" I'm not making the right decision for our little girl. As much as I can tell you to listen to your gut, I understand that doubt has a sneaky way.

Do you BF or Formula your little one?

Quoting Seth-y-Felicia:" Well I can relate. Our Eva isn't underweight, but has been in the lower 25% since day one. She's going ... [snip!] ... as I can tell you to listen to your gut, I understand that doubt has a sneaky way. Do you BF or Formula your little one?"

she is FF and eats at least 3 meals of solids a day, plus snacks. our pedi tried to tell them to do the same thing. we refused instantly. i find it mean to wake a baby unless completely necessary. we just started feeding her more often during the day. still didn't see much of a difference so we stopped stressing it. we were keeping her stuffed most of the day and it made her little belly tight.

Quoting Seth-y-Felicia:" Well I can relate. Our Eva isn't underweight, but has been in the lower 25% since day one. She's going ... [snip!] ... as I can tell you to listen to your gut, I understand that doubt has a sneaky way. Do you BF or Formula your little one?"

Never wake a sleeping baby. I can't believe that your pediatrician would even suggest that. Ladies you both need to switch babies come in different shapes and sizes just like adults. Some are skinny some are fat. Your babies are NOT I repeat NOT underweight I cannot stress that enough. If your ped is insisting that you need to force feed your children because they are "too skinny" You need to report that ped and change doctors. Like I said before my DD is off the charts on length but only on the 25th-20th percentile on weight and my ped is perfectly fine with it in fact she recently told me that because she is thinner she learned how to crawl faster and she will learn how to walk faster because she doesn't have as much weight to lug around. Just because your baby is thin doesn't mean that your baby is unhealthy stop listening to these quacks that think all babies have to have rolls upon rolls of fat. To me that is unhealthy.