re: Jerk

<blockquote><b>Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Buzz ... [snip!] ... when we know you are not going to take it. It's better to just let know that when you are really ready we are here to help you."</blockquote>

Its not that I'm not ready to leave though. Its juat I have though about all of this and I realise that its going to take time to do this realisticly. Ever one keeps saying I need to leave NOW but I know I cant. It will probably be june or july before it is feasable. If I leave before then I risk being homeless with 3 kids. If I can hold out until june dd will be out of school and so will her dad. I can either stay at his place at that point or go to my dad's if he takes that job. Then I can find a job and get assistance until I'm on my feet and can get my own place

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... or go to my dad's if he takes that job. Then I can find a job and get assistance until I'm on my feet and can get my own place"</blockquote>




I really really mean this with no intentions of sounding rude.

If you feel safe enough to stay then it is something you can wait through, but in all honesty this is escalating. Just from watching your posts ( not stalking I promise I just see them) it is getting bad. He is already physically and mentally/emotionally abusing you. It is a hostile relationship and I pray it does not get worse, but if/ when it does there are means for you to get out immediately. But they are not pleasant and will be very tough- but it would be worth it. And when that time comes we can help you.

Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Buzz ... [snip!] ... But they are not pleasant and will be very tough- but it would be worth it. And when that time comes we can help you."

I appreciate that. And I agree it is out of control. That is exactly why I am determined to GTF  at this point. I just can't deal with all this smurf any more. He gets mad over everything and blows smurf way out of proportion. IDK what the hell I was thinking marrying him in the first place. I want to believe he had changed but do men like that ever really change?

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I appreciate that. And I agree it is out of control. That is exactly why I am determined to GTF  ... [snip!] ... hell I was thinking marrying him in the first place. I want to believe he had changed but do men like that ever really change?"</blockquote>




You know I have mixed feelings on men changing. I have seen some change, but this man doesn't even give good reasoning for proof he would change. I really would not even consider him changing at this point ( not saying that you are just saying as a general point)

Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I appreciate that. And I agree it is out ... [snip!] ... change. I really would not even consider him changing at this point ( not saying that you are just saying as a general point)"

Well he was acting way different when we first got back together and he was even telling me he had changed because he loved me and wanted to be a family. Like a month into the marriage he changed right the smurf back.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" Well he was acting way different when we first got back together and he was even telling me he had changed ... [snip!] ... me he had changed because he loved me and wanted to be a family. Like a month into the marriage he changed right the smurf back."</blockquote>




That really sucks.

Get the smurf out of there, I'm sorry to be rude but don't smurfing complain about something if you're not willing or trying to change it! I hope this motivates you, your kids should also, do you want them thinking its ok to do that?? For you're daughter to let a man treat her like that?!?!??



Please leave.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rydicule91:</b>" Get the smurf out of there, I'm sorry to be rude but don't smurfing complain about something if you're ... [snip!] ... do you want them thinking its ok to do that?? For you're daughter to let a man treat her like that?!?!?? Please leave."</blockquote>




I don't know if you've read through this but it's very clear she is not going anywhere soon. I know we wish we could make her but right now it's not bad enough for her to get out tonight. We think it is but she is willing to stay. Just offer her support for the second she is really ready to leave at that exact moment.

( sorry for talking 'about' you OP I don't mean to talk like you are not "in the room" KWIM)

Is there any way you could steal his debit/credit card? I know that sounds smurffy and people might jump on me for it, but you need food in order to be breastfeeding a baby. If he physically will not give you money try to get one of his cards or cash while he is asleep and hide it inside your pillowcase. Tell him you dont know where it is, go food shopping and hide the food in your trunk of you really need to. Then put his card under his side of the bed or somewhere it couldve fallen out of his pocket or whatever. I agree that you shouldnt have to do shady smurf like that but you need food to survive.

<blockquote><b>Quoting DannyPete&MaggieKate's Ma:</b>" Is there any way you could steal his debit/credit card? I know that sounds smurffy and people might jump ... [snip!] ... out of his pocket or whatever. I agree that you shouldnt have to do shady smurf like that but you need food to survive. "</blockquote>

I found a 10 gift card to walmart last night that still had money on it so I put gas in my car and found a couple bucks in purse so I bought myself a sandwich and a small bag of chips. Also I bought some eggs so there goes my money but at least I have a little food now.

Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" See that is the thing though I have left ... [snip!] ... for a slice of pizza." What about leaving your dd with her dad until you can get a situation worked out so you can move."

I was in this exact situation. I called several shelters in the area and NO ONE could help. I had no ride there, no one to take me and my kids there, no family and really no options. The emotional/physical abuse was so god damn bad, i ended up trying to kill myself. Sometimes people really don't have options

<blockquote><b>Quoting flip off:</b>" I was in this exact situation. I called several shelters in the area and NO ONE could help. I had no ... [snip!] ... The emotional/physical abuse was so god damn bad, i ended up trying to kill myself. Sometimes people really don't have options"</blockquote>


Yeah but everyone always thinks there is.

Can you call any nearby churches? My mom's church helps alot of women out by placing them and their kids in another church members home until they get on their feet...or maybe you could just ask and see if they give any other options....whether you are Christian or not some will still help or find people who would be willing to help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" Can you call any nearby churches? My mom's church helps alot of women out by placing them and their kids ... [snip!] ... give any other options....whether you are Christian or not some will still help or find people who would be willing to help."</blockquote>


I looked in to that as well. All they could offer was marriage counselling. And they are the biggest church in the area.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" Can you call any nearby churches? My mom's ... [snip!] ... I looked in to that as well. All they could offer was marriage counselling. And they are the biggest church in the area."</blockquote>




Wtf !? Even after you told them you were in an abusive relationship? The he'll!?