re: BD drama

<blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... call the police, but my dad is here so I'm not overly concerned about that. He has 16/17 year olds who he uses for sex anyways."</blockquote>




interesting, lol well i hope he stays away, im glad u have someone with u...

Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Mak's ... [snip!] ... he uses for sex anyways."</blockquote> interesting, lol well i hope he stays away, im glad u have someone with u..."

Yeah, I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting him alone. He didn't end up showing up anyways, he was too busy drinking with high girls, go figure.

<blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" YeahI, I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting him alone. He didn't end up showing up anyways, he was too busy drinking with high girls, go figure. "</blockquot

If it makes u feel better when i was setup to be induced, my mom called him for me he wouldn't answer, so when he called back i was already in active labor, i was in labor 46 hours or so he called back at hour 38 i believe, was on his way to vegas with girls i used to dance with...   sooo he was busy the next couple of weeks... Lol

High school girls*

And that's smurffy. My BD's mom is going to be there when I'm in labor but he isn't.
I just don't understand why these men can dismiss their own children so easily.

We we're 21 when I had Dean were going to be 28 now, I've recently asked him why he was so mean to me, and all he could really say was he was stupid, still a lil kid, and it was easier to run away and pur blame on anyone else but himself...

as fathers, they have no control over the situation, they aren't carrying the baby, like we do, we don't have time to adjust to being pregnant, just 1 day, were preg lol
even my husband wasn't too sure how to handle it, jade was his 1st,, and he was 27, he was happy, but my whole pregnancy, he was scared smurfless, lol

Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:" We we're 21 when I had Dean were going to be 28 now, I've recently asked him why he was so mean to me, ... [snip!] ... too sure how to handle it, jade was his 1st,, and he was 27, he was happy, but my whole pregnancy, he was scared smurfless, lol"

I'm glad everything worked out for you and he recognized he was being stupid but I doubt that will happen with my BD.

I have a feeling things will get very ugly after the baby is born. :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" I'm glad everything worked out for you and he recognized he was being stupid but I doubt that will happen with my BD. I have a feeling things will get very ugly after the baby is born. :/"</blockquote>



It took us over 7 years to get where we are...

He had his gf sign papers that she served me, and she didn't, so my ex went to court crying rivers about me being a drug addict, alcoholic stripper, he's not even on birth cert, but had dna from when. Was debating on getting child support...
Got full custody of dean showed up at my house with cops and I had to hand my 3 year old over to a man he saw a few times in jail...

Cost me 7,500. And 6 weeks of not seeing my baby...once I. Bought in proof to dispute what he had said in court, I got dean back, 50/50 joint custody and no child support and dean kept my last name...

All because he didn't want to pay child support... its been 4 years since that easter he took him... and I hate him for what he did, but I see how happy my son is when were all around and everyones playing nice... be prepared for anything, I will never underestimate anyone ever again

As much as david has hurt me, I will never let our son know, because he deserves us to behave, always keep ur childs needs and wants in front of ur heart and personal feeling

Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" I'm glad everything worked out for you and ... [snip!] ... our son know, because he deserves us to behave, always keep ur childs needs and wants in front of ur heart and personal feeling"

Yep, my big thing is that I won't ever let this baby know what I think about his father or the fact that he was accidentally conceived (my mom told my brother he was a miracle baby but his whole life he's thought he was unwanted for some reason).

I'm terrified of going to court. I don't partake in any illegal activities (except I drank before I got pregnant) but I'm still worried that he'll somehow find a way to take him. I've got screenshots of his posts about doing drugs and breaking into houses, etc. though just in case I ever have to use them. Really though, I hope it doesn't come to that. I could prove that his house is unsafe too if I really have to.

<blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" Yep, my big thing is that I won't ever let this baby know what I think about his father or the fact that ... [snip!] ... to use them. Really though, I hope it doesn't come to that. I could prove that his house is unsafe too if I really have to. "</blockquote>



to use in court, if i were u i would get police reports, i had a binder full of emails, text, messages and pixs of injuries, judge dismissed everything because I didn't have police reports, told me if I didn't call cops when it happened, I must not have been too scared  

My ex had just got out of prison on parole, for loaded fire arms, attempted gta, and posession with intent to sell, when he got custody, I had cases pending for posession with intent and under influence..
Our records had nothing to do with custody

Quoting DeanJade&Mak's Mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting veggiehugger:</b>" Yep, my big thing is that I won't ever let ... [snip!] ... he got custody, I had cases pending for posession with intent and under influence.. Our records had nothing to do with custody"

I can't really get police report as he hasn't threatened me though. My dad said that when he had to go to court over his first son the judge allowed his ex wife to use letters that he had written to paint his character. Maybe it just depends on the judge?

IDK, hopefully it never comes to that...