Smurffy fathers

I want to hear from other moms who have smurffy fathers for their child(ren) or smurffy mothers if it applies. What do you do? Do you let he/she see the child(ren) as to not deny the child their father? Or do you cut off all contact. I'm in an awkward place and don't know what to do.

Quoting A&J. ♥:" I want to hear from other moms who have smurffy fathers for their child(ren) or smurffy mothers if it applies. ... [snip!] ... as to not deny the child their father? Or do you cut off all contact. I'm in an awkward place and don't know what to do."

I gave him chance after chance after chance. I played it like baseball 3 strikes youre out and thats what i meant. The third time i filed for custody and got full physical and sole custody and i ended all contact with him. Its not worth it to hurt the child bc in the end thats all thats going to happen

I'm letting nature take it's course. My daughter will be 6 this year and she's understanding all on her own her donor is a smurfbag. She used to think the world of him, now that he's proven he sucks in life, she says she's mad at him.

We don't say a word about him to her. My ex lives in another state so I don't have to worry about him trying to see her. If he tries to take me to court everyone in the courtroom will laugh at him.

I let him see her. It would not bode well for me with legal agreements (or her in the long run) to deny him visitation.

Well as of right now I don't have to let my sons father see him. We have a court order that says if he missed two consecutive weekend visits his visitation us canceled. He changed his number and has not called or tried to contact his son. I did let him see him while I was in the hospital only because my son was with his paternal grandparents. Other than that we have no contact and he doesn't lay his court ordered child support. He's just a smurffy father to my son.

Dd doesnt see her father he isnt allowed contact with her i would do the 3 strikes kinda like what i did then i gave up hw got crazy ans now he cant see her

I have told my son's biological father he could see him as often as he wants & he makes no effort. I will never deny him visitation, just because I feel that would be wrong of me. But I honestly would rather him not be a part of his life, since he comes & goes as he pleases.

There is a custody order in place, I don't deny visitation....but, he also doesn't utilize it.

my ex and i have 3 kids together, itried for years for him to have some sort of contact, but he chooses not too. its been 6 years since i left and yes i left the state we lived in. he hasnt seen the kids since i left and the last time he tried to call was well over 2 years ago. i have a support order for 1200 a month which he doesnt pay. my kids now have an amazing step dad. my ex is also a script pill user, so i wouldnt let him around them even if he wanted to see them.

My son's father chooses to remain out of contact and jobless so that he can't be hit up for child support and in turn hasn't seen my son since he was 4 months old.

Minimal supervised contact. He'sa recovering heroin addict so I'm very uncomfortable having her around him.

when he was a smurffy father, i ignored him,
when he got out of prison and wanted to see the baby i let him come over but i always had someone with me because of our history,
he went to court and got 50/50 custody...
i had no choice but to let him take him when he was supposed too...

I have tried so hard to get along with my ex for our childrens sakes but i have given him chance after chance and he has always chose himself over the kids. I have given him one more chance mainly for the boys especially my 2 year old cause i know he loves his dad and its not fair to him. He will have them this weekend so we will see how it goes

My ex is smurffy in the fact that he makes no effort to see or even call them. Has seen them once in the past 9 months (he lives 7 hrs away but has had MANY opportunities to come home) he even flew to the other side of the country to meet a girl over seeing his kids. Since February 12th he's called once. It breaks my heart because I've been through the same with my dad when I was younger. I hate that my kids have to go through it! I will never keep them from seeing their dad and they'll never hear me say one foul word about him; I know in time they'll see him for who he is just like I did. Right now I can just be mommy and be there to kiss and cuddle the sadness away.

Ok her eis my story of a smurffy father:

my now (10.5 yr old dd) dad left when she wa 12 months old. I was 19 he was 26. He was around for a few months after we split, taking her to his place a little but etc.....
When my dd turned 2 he was engaged to some broad and she was pregnat with his kid. He rarely saw our dd at all anymore.

When she was 2 1/2 we went to court and he got stripped of his parental rights for lack of interest in our dd. But ordered to pay child support. And visitations were up to me. I never denied him his right to see her (even though he had no legal rights) he did that himself. He came in and left once ina while had a 2nd kid with his wife.

He divorced his wife aboput 3 yrs ago now maybe 4. She lost custody of the kids, he took them in then social services took them away, all while ignoring our dd. In which he never paid support for ever (quit his job so he didnt have to pay)

So fast forward....my dd is almost 11 now and has 2 half sisters from him and a half brother (14 months old) he lost custody of his two daughters, but see's them every weekend, even picks them up from the foster home (right around the corner from my place) he just split with his latest gf and time will tell what kind of a dad he will be to him.

But anyways, my dd has not spoken to or seen her da since Dec 2012. His mom had her for an early Christmas. He see's his other kids weekly and my dd knows , he drives by our house to pick them up and doesnt even stop or call or anything, he is a big piece of smurf.
Its sad, my 10 yr old talks about him all the time and wants to know why he is a piece of smurf, we talk about it almost daily. I dont lie to her anymore about her dad. Its unfair and caused her to be in therapy for it for yrs.