Belongings of a loved one who's passed

I don't plan to do it for a few weeks. I can't go into his room. I can't even look down the hallway to his room. I've never had to burry anyone that was close to me and the loss of my son is almost too much to bare. I need to keep my mind busy so I am trying to figure out what to do with his things. I don't know if I should keep them, or if anyone knows of a cause that I could give them too because the smurf if I will give them to a second hand store *sorry*. Does anyone who's gone through something like this know what I should do or have any ideas? My son was 8.

omg i read about your story im so unbelievably sorry. id keep important things. the little things that you treasure most then take the rest to a childrens hospital. give sick children happiness. thats what i would do.

I am so, incredibly sorry to hear about the loss of your son.

First of all, I would wait until you're ready. Don't rush. <3

Keep some of it that has sentimental value. Maybe search for families in need in your area that you can give the things you want to give away so you know they're going to a good home and a good cause.

I know that words can never help your healing process, but I'm so sorry for your loss and sending you and your family love and peace.

I'm so sorry for your loss honey. I'm glad that I can finally say that to you, directly. Your family is in my thoughts <3

I think you should do whatever will make you feel at peace.

Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" I don't plan to do it for a few weeks. I can't go into his room. I can't even look down the hallway to ... [snip!] ... hand store *sorry*. Does anyone who's gone through something like this know what I should do or have any ideas? My son was 8."

My heart breaks for you and your family.

I think it is too soon to make a decision about his things. You may want to keep some but not be able to bring yourself to go through it yet.

*hugs*

My heart is breaking for you, I can't even begin to imagine. I don't think I could get rid of my sons things for a very long time...but I think a wonderful thing to do with them would be maybe donate the things with the least sentimental value to a shelter or something....when you're ready of course. Again, I'm so sorry  

dont do anything til you're ready. you can take some clothes and make it into a quilt so you can keep it.

off topic but are you in grief counselling? i went to a few sessions when my grandma died and it helped some....not helped but made it easier to cope/understand

I'm so very sorry for your loss sweetie, I lost my son the day he was born so I didn't have much to remember him by.. just some pictures and whatever I got from the hospital. I don't know about a place to donate his belongings to, but when I was going through my grieving, I scrapbooked. You can take anything of his and put it in a scrapbook as long as it'll fit, it may sound dumb but it really helped me. You can turn such a horrible tragedy into something beautiful to remember him by.

Take your time. Don't rush yourself.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and I prayed for you and your family.

I am going to make a memory box for his brother. Jake loved Wyatt so much. I want Wyatt to have things to know who his brother is because he is far too young to remember him. I will not go through his room for quite a while. I had to go get an outfit for him to be buried in and that was the hardest smurfing thing.

Quoting Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys}:" dont do anything til you're ready. you can take some clothes and make it into a quilt so you can keep ... [snip!] ... i went to a few sessions when my grandma died and it helped some....not helped but made it easier to cope/understand"

The quilt is an amazing idea. I live too far away to the nearest councler *three hours* too go to one.

Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" I am going to make a memory box for his brother. Jake loved Wyatt so much. I want Wyatt to have things ... [snip!] ... through his room for quite a while. I had to go get an outfit for him to be buried in and that was the hardest smurfing thing."

 

i'd put a few toys, maybe a drawing Jake did and pictures of him in it. maybe make him a quilt too of his brothers clothes

Quoting RIPmysweetbaby:" The quilt is an amazing idea. I live too far away to the nearest councler *three hours* too go to one."

if you need help, when you are ready, let me know. i'm making one for DD with her baby clothes and i'd love to help you

Quoting LayLu:" I'm so very sorry for your loss sweetie, I lost my son the day he was born so I didn't have much to remember ... [snip!] ... it may sound dumb but it really helped me. You can turn such a horrible tragedy into something beautiful to remember him by."

So many of my friends have made beautiful things for me to remember him by. A shadow box, a shirt, my one friend is making window stickers for our vehicles. and so much more